bonny doon Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 hey all ... been on here awhile under a different name ... but just got dumped a few days ago. since we used to email each other all day long at work, it 'feels like' breaking NC by checking my email and seeing no emails from him. isn't that weird? does that make any sense at all? i feel as though i am breaking no contact every time i open up my email, even though i'm not emailing, contacting, etc. ... this sucks... anyone else feel this way?
Brittanyjean06 Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 I felt the same exact way the first week, but after that I new he wasn't going to contact me for the next year, and hasn't for the past 8 months. I new it would be painful to keep reenterting yahoo only to discover, well NOTHING, so I burned bridges, deleted the email and made a new account. You need to get in to the habit of not cheaking your emails, text messages..ex.. It will make things easier on you, especially since he was the one who initiated the break up, you won't be hearing from him any time soon I'm sorry!
Author bonny doon Posted April 19, 2006 Author Posted April 19, 2006 thanks brittanyjean... you are right... i need to stop checking it like i used to ... *sigh*. so sad. i should just limit it to 1x a day or so (for important matters, you know, like if someone important - not him - emails me). every time i check it it is like a knife stabbing into me. aarrrgh!!!! thanks for your input.
Brittanyjean06 Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 No problem, but than that goes back to making a new email, you should really look in to that, and tell everyone who is on your email account that you have a new email! yeah limiting is good to, but I feel like you should really just STOP in general, and you won't be as tempted to see if they have emailed you Your welcome everything is easier said than done though, just get the strength to do it!
Chinook Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 Oh man do I know how you feel! (I got a thread on it somewhere) I've even got to the point now where I LIKE SPAM!! Can you believe it..? I'm relieved it's SPAM mail. I worked out a good way to do stuff... I closed my hotmail account (never used it anyways but was good as a back-up). I forward all my email from my yahoo account now to work. I have home access but I really cannot be arsed logging onto the network from home only to be met with work requests. So I leave it. End result..? Only checking at work when composed anyhow. Avoiding email at my most vulnerable times. I'm a smart cookie.
My_Other_I Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 hey all ... been on here awhile under a different name ... but just got dumped a few days ago. since we used to email each other all day long at work, it 'feels like' breaking NC by checking my email and seeing no emails from him. isn't that weird? does that make any sense at all? i feel as though i am breaking no contact every time i open up my email, even though i'm not emailing, contacting, etc. ... this sucks... anyone else feel this way? I almost forgot how that used to feel. The stomach cramps each time I would turn the computer on. It will pass. Change your email, that might help.
Author bonny doon Posted April 19, 2006 Author Posted April 19, 2006 My Other I - I did think of changing my email but I'm not going to, as I've had my account for a long-ass time (we're talking years and years) ... It's just gonna be "being strong" from here on out. I'm actually doing a lot better. did a big crying/hiking/driving/running/not sleeping/not eating spell over the weekend and i'm on the roller coast right now. Minute 1: OMG WTF What an a**h*** he was, I hate him. I am so much better off without him. Minute 2: OMG WTF did I do, I f*d up this relationship and he was the best thing that ever happened to me, I never saw how much he meant to me until I lost him. He was "the one that got away". Stupid old commitmentphobic me!!!!! Minute 3: OMG WTF I never liked him anyway, this is for the best, now I can move on and be free. YAY!!!!!!! Minute 4: ... I totally suck, I can't believe I drove him away, he was such a sweetheart, i wish he would take me back ... waaaaaaahh!!!! Minute 5: .. and so on, you get the picture ... ARRGGGGHH!!!!
Author bonny doon Posted April 19, 2006 Author Posted April 19, 2006 stomach cramps every time you turn the computer on ... TOTALLY. I'm so glad I'm not alone here.
shelters Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 Minute 1: OMG WTF What an a**h*** he was, I hate him. I am so much better off without him. Minute 2: OMG WTF did I do, I f*d up this relationship and he was the best thing that ever happened to me, I never saw how much he meant to me until I lost him. He was "the one that got away". Stupid old commitmentphobic me!!!!! Minute 3: OMG WTF I never liked him anyway, this is for the best, now I can move on and be free. YAY!!!!!!! Minute 4: ... I totally suck, I can't believe I drove him away, he was such a sweetheart, i wish he would take me back ... waaaaaaahh!!!! Minute 5: .. and so on, you get the picture ... ARRGGGGHH!!!! Frickin funny. Love it. SO normal!!!
Chinook Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 You think that's funny you should read what I wrote about the neighbour coming to the door with a chocolate egg for me.. Evil-internal-voice... [at stairs] is it him? is it not? it IS him! no it's not is it him? [at door] maybe it is? Oh... it's not him. But did he send it...? and so on...
Author bonny doon Posted April 19, 2006 Author Posted April 19, 2006 shelter, thanks for lettin' me know i'm "normal." I can't wait to be out of this "normal" crazy stage and just accept the fact that it was for the best. I still vacillate between being so heartbroken that my actions drove him away (for good) and between being pretty happy that i'm recovering so well and looking forward to life...
shelters Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 I still vacillate between being so heartbroken that my actions drove him away (for good) and between being pretty happy that i'm recovering so well and looking forward to life... I can relate quite a bit. That is what is so great about LS... I read myself in so many of the posts or bits and pieces of posts. It helps me to find the humor in a situation, esp these 'normal' crazy stages. Good luck and hopefully the next time you are going up/down that way you can stop and look in the mirror, smile at yourself, and a have a good (kind) laugh at the 'normal' craziness. Cheers!
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