StuckOnEx Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 I broke up with my ex about 8 months ago. He has obviously moved on with his life but I can't seem to. I have tried reading the self-help books, and know all the rational, reasonable things that I'm supposed to do, but I still think about him all the time, even though there's no way we can ever be together again. He's moved to another country and is making all these new friends and it kills me everytime I hear about all the things he's doing without me. I think the problem is that I broke the no contact rule - I tried it twice but every time found myself wanting to have some sort of contact with him. I'm always logging on to Messenger hoping that he'll be on, and sometimes he is and we'll chat, but he's always the first to say he has to go and everytime he does that it hurts like hell. I try not to contact him, but sometimes I get into these moods when I need to hear from him, like today, when I smsed him three times because I didn't get a reply, and eventually ended up calling him, only to have him tell me that his phone was running out of credit and he therefore he couldn't talk. But he did send me an e-mail to tell me this. So I guess it's harder because he's still nice to me, and he doesn't totally avoid me, even though he could. I keep telling myself to move on, but I still sometimes cry myself to sleep, and hate myself for being so pathetic. And I get so angry at HIM for moving on so quickly and forgetting everything that we shared. At the moment, it just seems like I am going to feel like this forever, as it's been more than half a year, and my feelings haven't diminished a bit. The thing is, we were really close friends even before getting together, so we pretty much confided in each other about everything. And now, even though we have broken up, I know I can still talk to him if the need arises. But I am still hurting so much inside and nothing seems to work. So, is it worth it to try to remain friends with an ex? And how do you stop the pain and move on? And how come guys seem to be able to move on so quickly? If all this has been answered somewhere before, I apologise for asking it again, but this has been therapeutic for me, so thanks to all for listening.
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