keye Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 So there's this guy I'm attracted to - we have mutual friends and see one another quite often, out at clubs, at friends' houses, always in a social setting. The first night I met him (way back in November), we had a bit of a kiss but following that, there were a few complications - I fell for one of his friends and consequently ended up 'choosing' this friend over him, leading him to pretty much hate me for a good few months for leading him on, only to reject him. Anyway, it's only over the last month or so that we've started to be friendly again, once we were both given the time and space to get over what happened. We're both single, and after spending the whole day with him (and a couple of other friends) on Sunday, I've discovered that I am still REALLY attracted to him. I may even like him. And I know for a fact that he's still attracted to me. The thing is, he's quite immature and inexperienced with girls. He's never had a relationship and he hasn't even gone beyond first base, which is rare for a 19yo guy who goes out and meets girls quite a lot! I'm not sure whether it would be worth taking a chance by viewing him as potential relationship material. At the very least, I would want something physical and see where it goes from there. I SMSed him after Sunday and said thanks for being so hospitable (we were at his house that day), and that I hope everything is cool with us (after the whole mess that happened with his friend at the end of last year) and that we can try to be friends. He messaged back and said, "That's alright, babe. Give me a call when you're free and we'll do something". He's also heard from a mutual friend since that yes, I am really attracted to him and apparently was pretty happy about it. Interested, right? Now I'm kinda scared about what will happen. I know we could have something great, but what does one do when a guy is totally inexperienced, both with relationships and sex?! I want to take things slowly and build up his trust and respect again, but is it worth it? I'm sooo confused! Any opinions, observations or advice about the situation would be really appreciated. Thanks in advance.
amerikajin Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 but what does one do when a guy is totally inexperienced, both with relationships and sex?! You give him experience, that's what you do!!! You say you like this guy...what's the hold up?!?! You should consider yourself lucky that you've still got a chance with him, because you never know, he might end up getting his first real groove on with someone at a club one night and then you'll have blown your chance. He might come on a little strong at first, so you should expect that with someone who's inexperienced when it comes to relationships. You might even want to tell him straight up that you don't want to be smothered by guys, that a date or two a week max is more than enough (not so much with regard to him, but any relationship you have). Tell him you don't like being called all the time. I know, I know...you'd rather him just know this stuff, but guess what - we all gotta get our start somewhere, right? I'll put it to you this way: my ex fiancee knew that I was inexperienced in the aforementioned categories, but by the time our relationship ended, she admitted that I was the best she'd ever had and that she'd miss that about our relationship - and this was after things had already soured so she had no need to b.s. me on this one. Just help the guy out a little and let him figure out the rest.
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