Author Mixedup Posted April 22, 2006 Author Posted April 22, 2006 Thank you for your advice. I am not sticking up for this man at all as he has hurt me. He loves his wife enough not to hurt her and it has a lot to do with his family and sister. His sister is deaf and had lukemia and his wife is the sisters best friend. he doesnt want to upset his sister. i know this just seems like excuses. he says he loves me and because of this has left me alone. we arent seeing each other anymore. he says he is going through the pain of being in an unhappy marriage because he cant devastate his wife. i just cant help believing this guy. i know im stupid and he doesnt love me enough. i think at the beginning that is all he wanted was a sexual relationship but he has fallen for me. god i know i have to move on and do all these things its just so hard. i miss him so much.
Grinning Maniac Posted April 26, 2006 Posted April 26, 2006 I'm curious. How did this: I got married a year ago to a wonderful man. We have been together now for about 6 years. I was so in love with him, worshipped him and wanted to have his children. I thought there was no one else for me. turn into this: I am just not happy and I can not give him what he wants. The existing sex problem was there before I had an affair. I just can't make love to him. I don't think I am sexually attracted to him anymore. Those statements seem to contradict each other quite a lot. Very peculiar.
Guest Posted April 27, 2006 Posted April 27, 2006 I guess the word "d'oh!" was invented for situations like this.
Guest Posted May 18, 2006 Posted May 18, 2006 Give yourself a break and let it go. I have been on this road for three years now. Married both of us, working together. He is my boss, I can't quite. We mutually "agree" to end it but it starts over again and again. Typical story, married 20 years, virgin, bored at home Blah, blah, blah. I really thought this was what I wanted but now I truly wish I could go back and start from where the affair started so I could just say no. Oddly enough we never expected anything from each other, no demands, no leaving the spouses, just f--- buddies but I gotta tell you it is pretty damn emotional everytime we stop. like taking my drugs, he is an addiction. Even worse I have lost my friend because we were friends but I don't see it staying that way by the time it is all done, it's to emotional. I also forsee losing a very high paying job i can not replace in this area either, I screwed myself! My husband is a whole other chapter, I have not been fair to him and the bosses wife is a wonderful lady who would never expect me of all people to betray her. If I ever get over this (its been three months since it has ended) I will NEVER, EVER put myself in this type of miserable, low life kind of situation again. Besides being unfair to everyone involved, it has been cruel to me and I have degraded myself to the point that I do not recognize who I am anymore. Leave it alone and either fix your marriage or get out of your marriage and find someone else the right way, as a single woman. Good Luck
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