numsey Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 Every day things seem to get easier and easier. I've become extra productive at work. My car is spotless and shining (washed and waxed it 3 times so far), even joined a gym and started working out. But its times like now. When I'm home, alone with no one around that really kills me. I pace, every song I hear and every tv show I see somehow reminds me of her. I'm afraid to leave the house because I think she'll call and I'll miss it. My coworker wants to try to hook me up with a friend of his, but I'm terrified we'll go to a club and she'll be there and never call me again. Why am I clinging like this? I used to love being by myself, now all I want is to be with her.
CaliGuy Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 Have you seen a Counselor. It helps. I have those days too. Start playing World of Warcraft. Burns a lot of time
wahaha1 Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 I have gone through this stage, my friend brought me to a restaurant for my birthday, ordered me a 'truffles foie gras pasta' dish (I am supposed to love this dish), but I felt like I was eating shxt..., with all the pain coming from my heart and stomach... It is just a process, a process that leads to a brand new you.... Try to read the other posts on here, you will find your situation is not the worst and you are not alone. Good luck.
UT_longhorn Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 ah....that lonliness. you can be in a room with all your best friends at the most incredible place and be sieged by solitude that darkly filters all that is around you. there is a sort of beauty in solitude and pain. let yourself fully feel your emotions because no amount of pacing will purge your sorrow. truly feel it then let go. in time, it will pass.
shelters Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 let yourself fully feel your emotions Awesome advice. Sometimes knowing what to expect makes it a little bit easier. This past weekend I was out with friends in a crowded bar and yet felt so lonely. Yesterday I felt really good for some odd reason. Experience the emotions as they come, be patient with the process and take comfort that no one feeling (high or low) is ever permanent.
Big_A Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 I go through this several times a day. Sometimes saying to myself, “I’m O.K.” and get surprised at how good I feel. Then an hour later I cry and wish she was there to help me. How ridiculous is that, I’m crying over her and I want her to console me? The one thing that really seems to help me is working out. It seems to take my mind away for a little while.
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