sweetie7 Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 Okay, this is kind of a weird situation but it's kind of bothering me. My ex and I have been broken up for a week with NC but it was really a long time coming. While I still love him and miss him, I'm realizing that he's just not the guy for me. I think I'm especially sad just because I hate change and we had so many good times together and when I think about them, I miss him. Anyway, he's the one who officially ended it and hasn't attempted to contact me though I did write him an e-mail. So, I went out with my friends the other night and ran into a guy he knows (we'll call him B). I wouldn't say they're friends--but my ex's best friend is friends with a lot of B's friends and frequently hangs out with B. Does that make sense? I've met him but never really talked so we saw each other and said hi and stuff. One of my girl friends knows him a bit better than me (she's good friends with my ex's best friend) and she was there too. I was really drunk and said "I'm J's ex gf" And he was like "ohh ex gf? I didn't realize that" So we hung out at the bar joking around with eachother and our other friends. I gave him my # (don't know why, I was drunk). Two days later he texts me with something we had been joking about. Then he asked if I wanted to meet up with him and his friends (there were tons of parties going on around the city) He called me the next day but I didn't answer and later texted I hope he'd had fun, sorry I couldn't go. He said it would have been more fun if I was there. The thing is, obviously I'm not ready for a new relationship but this guy is really cool and I would love to hang out with him (esp. in a group of friends). But I feel so guilty and feel like my ex would be so pissed if he found out. But can't I do what I want, my ex broke up with me...Part of the reason I really didn't want to go yesterday was bc I had a feeling my ex and/or his best friend would be there. Then I thought maybe B is just being a jerk and wants to show off that he got me or something (My ex is really good-looking, tough guy and some people don't like him for that). While I don't know B too well, he does seem really genuinely nice and like a good, decent guy. I don't even really know what I'm asking. I guess I'm just confused.
JustWantToBeHappy Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 I think you should go out with B But, I think you should tell him that you'd rather it not be around your ex and/or his friends for a while being that the breakup was so recent. If he is sincere, he'll go out with you alone (dinner or something) and not be looking to show you off. Then you'll know. BTW, lose the guilt, HE broke up with YOU!
Author sweetie7 Posted April 18, 2006 Author Posted April 18, 2006 That's kind of what I think but some of my friends are saying "You couldn't do that to J." But J's the one who broke up with me and obviously wants nothing to do with me now. I should mention we were together for almost 2 years and we were very close. I'm very hurt that he doesn't care about me at all now but would never want to hurt him, even though I sometimes wish I could. The way I see it, if anything, B's life is going to be screwed up. I'm kind of on the outside of the situation now. B's friends are the ones who are going to be saying, "What are you doing with J's girl?" I'm sort of confused too just because it's been such a short time since I've been broken up. Maybe I'm just needing something/someone to take my mind off of J...which I know is bad.
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