consumed Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 I'm curious when your S/O or new GF sends you txt msgs or quick emails do you always respond? I don't want to seem like I'm always waiting for a txt and responding 2 seconds later. Sounds desperate, or that your clingy.
Adunaphel Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 I'm curious when your S/O or new GF sends you txt msgs or quick emails do you always respond? I don't want to seem like I'm always waiting for a txt and responding 2 seconds later. Sounds desperate, or that your clingy. I always do, I think it's manner. (well, unless I don't have the time to write the e-mail or my cell phone battery power is very low, I cannot recharge it and I might need it to call someone). If I am very busy and get 5-6 text messages in a row, I might take some time to write back, or let him know that I'll text him later.
laRubiaBonita Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 i usually respond soon after i get an emailthat is out main mode of communicate throughout week days, unless i am super busy or something, and if i am i will indicate it. i do not think it seems needy, i know i feel more special and thought of when i receive a quick reply, even if it is just a Hi! so i would like my s/o to feel the same.
ICS Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 From personal experience, I can tell you that it depends on which position you assume early in the relationship. If you are quick to reply to messages, be it text messages, IM messages, or email- then your SO will come to expect this of you later on in the relationship. If anything, breaking your intitial habits and replying less quickly might suggest to your SO that you've lost interest in them. However it also depends on who you are dealing with, as a quick reply could go either way. Those who are manipulative might exploit this and very soon it will become a game. But for those who view it as nothing but a friendly "I miss you" gesture, it might be appreciated. My ex sometimes took advantage of my quick replies and assumes that I am ignoring her when I don't have the time or am just away from my phone to reply right away. Many fights in my relationship started this way, quite ridiculous don't you think?
RecordProducer Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 I'm curious when your S/O or new GF sends you txt msgs or quick emails do you always respond? I don't want to seem like I'm always waiting for a txt and responding 2 seconds later. Sounds desperate, or that your clingy.How can it sound clingy or desperate when you RESPOND to her messages? Is it clingy when she sends them to you? It's rude to not respond to them if you're a couple. You don't need to respond if she sends you a joke though. You can also call her on the phone instead of writing her an email. Just don't ignore her message as if you never got it.
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