the_alchemyst Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 Yeah, I lost it. Sigh. I lost my position as the editor of my school's newsletter. Why? Because of what happened on that dreaded Thursday nearly two weeks ago. I was called in by the committee, and was told, in a rather crude and straight-forward manner, that, if I was unable to remain composture in such a simple scenario, how could I possibly be trusted with running the school's "lavish" newsletter? I trying to explain to them why I "lost composture" that day, but it was useless; they didn't even let me exlain, saying that "no excuse was valid." Apparently, I had detrimented the school's "honor's reputation." I tarnished it. They told me they were extremely disappointed with my behavior and that not only that--they were "appalled." Appalled! So, I was removed from the position, and--like that didn't make me feel bad enough, they announced very heartily that they were going to make sure my transcripts showed that I did not resign from the position, but that I was removed due to "incapacity to mainting post." WTF!! I asked them why the hell they were going to do this, and they told me that it was in order to ensure that my chances of ever staffing another newsletter were minimal, as they trully do not want another school to go through the same humilliation. I can't believe this . . . All of my life I have wanted to go to UCLA, and being editor of this newsletter was going to make it much easier for me because of the affiliation my school's newsletter overseer has with theirs. I practically kissed it good bye, seeing how she was main one advocating my removal. I feel so horrible. I can't believe they would do something like this to me! After I have worked so hard for a year and a half on that stupid thing! After, yes--thanks to me, that stupid newsletter won its first national award. Why thanks to me? Because I worked so hard to make sure everything was as close to perfection as possible. I wrote most of the articles (lazy and tiny staff of 5--wow!), edited all of them, made they layout, took the photos, took everything to have it printed--and I even paid for half at time! What more! I practically ran the entire thing! I really did. And then what? We actually got an award. The first one since its beginning well over 20 years ago. And this is what I get? Hell, I thought that when one subscribed to extra-curricular activities like this it was supposed to enhance the possibilities of a successful transfer, not void them. I feel so awful. I can't talk to anyone--my parents are too busy getting divorced, my brother is too busy with his gfs, my friends don't go to school, so they wouldn't understand how important this was/is for me--no one. And today I couldn't help but go cry at the park because I felt so lonely. And I knew he wasn't working today. And all I wanted was to go and talk to him, not about us, but about me. Just me. He was the only one I had to go to, and now I have no one; I literally have no one. I feel like total s***.
Outcast Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 Go see the school counsellor or your own physician immediately and explain the circumstances and ask for help in reversing their decision. Unless you did more than break down and leave, the school is being abusive and unfair to you. You had suffered a loss. My bf ditched me just before I defended my Honours thesis. My paper took a point of view that was contrary to the beliefs of one of my readers. He gave me a lower mark than I expected. I looked clearly upset. One of the other profs took me aside and asked if I thought the mark was unfair. Whereupon the tears came and I explained that I was just stressed out because the bf ditched me because I'd been working so hard on my paper I didn't have time to see him and so to have worked so hard and gotten a result that wasn't what I expected was very distressing. The profs told me to wait until the guy whose views I countered left the room and then upped my mark in his absence. *That's* how decent people behave when someone is suffering the stress and pain of a loss. I had worked hard all term as well as on the paper and they knew it so if my defense was a little weak that day due to my situation, they decided it wasn't fair to dock me. It's beyond absurd for them to suggest they will defame you and ruin your chances of working at another paper. In fact, I'd also consult a lawyer. A friend of mine did, fought her university for two years, and finally won readmission.
KittenMoon Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 :mad: :mad: Sometimes I don't get how completly unempathetic people can be!!! One lapse should not have lost you your position, and certainly not in such a callous manner! If they had demoted you a little, it may have been understandable, but what they did was uncalled for! Did any express any sympathy AT ALL? The world is full of jerks.
climbergirl Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 Yeah, I lost it. Sigh. I lost my position as the editor of my school's newsletter. Why? Because of what happened on that dreaded Thursday nearly two weeks ago. I was called in by the committee, and was told, in a rather crude and straight-forward manner, that, if I was unable to remain composture in such a simple scenario, how could I possibly be trusted with running the school's "lavish" newsletter? I trying to explain to them why I "lost composture" that day, but it was useless; they didn't even let me exlain, saying that "no excuse was valid." Apparently, I had detrimented the school's "honor's reputation." I tarnished it. They told me they were extremely disappointed with my behavior and that not only that--they were "appalled." Appalled! So, I was removed from the position, and--like that didn't make me feel bad enough, they announced very heartily that they were going to make sure my transcripts showed that I did not resign from the position, but that I was removed due to "incapacity to mainting post." WTF!! I asked them why the hell they were going to do this, and they told me that it was in order to ensure that my chances of ever staffing another newsletter were minimal, as they trully do not want another school to go through the same humilliation. I can't believe this . . . All of my life I have wanted to go to UCLA, and being editor of this newsletter was going to make it much easier for me because of the affiliation my school's newsletter overseer has with theirs. I practically kissed it good bye, seeing how she was main one advocating my removal. I feel so horrible. I can't believe they would do something like this to me! After I have worked so hard for a year and a half on that stupid thing! After, yes--thanks to me, that stupid newsletter won its first national award. Why thanks to me? Because I worked so hard to make sure everything was as close to perfection as possible. I wrote most of the articles (lazy and tiny staff of 5--wow!), edited all of them, made they layout, took the photos, took everything to have it printed--and I even paid for half at time! What more! I practically ran the entire thing! I really did. And then what? We actually got an award. The first one since its beginning well over 20 years ago. And this is what I get? Hell, I thought that when one subscribed to extra-curricular activities like this it was supposed to enhance the possibilities of a successful transfer, not void them. I feel so awful. I can't talk to anyone--my parents are too busy getting divorced, my brother is too busy with his gfs, my friends don't go to school, so they wouldn't understand how important this was/is for me--no one. And today I couldn't help but go cry at the park because I felt so lonely. And I knew he wasn't working today. And all I wanted was to go and talk to him, not about us, but about me. Just me. He was the only one I had to go to, and now I have no one; I literally have no one. I feel like total s***. God, I'm so sorry Al...........what a bunch of a**h***s. I remember your post from a few weeks back, but I thought you got through most of your speech (and omitted your BF's name), before leaving. I gathered that the audience would assume that you were just overwhelmed with the honor. I wish I could say something to help. {hug}
CaliGuy Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 Sorry to hear this Alchemyst. That totally sucks.
littlekitty Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 Is there nothing you can do?! Nothing to fight it? Surely they should have listened to your explanation? Should have taken the time to at least listen to you, considering your input and award? I'm sorry for you, and think they are very, very wrong for the way they dealt with you. Personal circumstances should be taken into consideration where an action is out of character.
destination_unknown Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 Ah, alchemist - hugs. They are pathetic. There are few people i know who havent completely screwed up something in similar situations at least once (in my work we have to give presentations at international conferences, which are supported by research grants so good public image is considered v important). Sometimes people get a bollicking afterword but they dont lose their positions! Is there no appeals procedure? What about outlining in writing what you have contributed to the newsletter? Ah, that just sucks. But CERTAINLY dont give up on UCLA! This is a blip in the big picture even if it doesnt feel like that now. You pick yourself up, brush it off and have a fresh start. Why not go to some local charity or organization and offer to start a newsletter for them? Nobody can take away what you achieved improving the newsletter so much and you CAN do it again with other publications, dont lose heart.
Vertex Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 Let them flounder without you then, if they are going to be asses about everything. You obviously have the skill and talent to do great things. Who knows, maybe they'll want you back if they realize what they've lost.
Author the_alchemyst Posted April 19, 2006 Author Posted April 19, 2006 Thanks for all of your replies! It makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. I actually have a (bad) update regarding this horrid situation, but the exbf already ruined my night--I didn't know it could actually get worse!--with his stupid nonsensical IM. I will update later today. Again, thank you all so much! =)
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