LuvHurts43 Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 Hello everyone! I am having a dilemma (sort of). I met this dude who is about four years older than me. This guy has one biological child and a step-child. My problem is not the kids, but the fact that he never has time for me. Between spending time with his kids and working i can only see him once a week. I got really frustrated and told him that i am not going to take him serious anymore. Now, my problem is, i miss him. i really do like him, and wish that things were different. I usually act on impulse, but now i wish that i would've went about it a different way. We don't talk as much now... Well, my question is if he's willing to talk to me again, I want to let him know that I do wanna work on it. I want him to spend more time with me, without having to take time away from his kids. We've only been talking for about a month, so I haven't met his kids yet. How can I go about doing/saying this without him taking it the wrong way? I really don't want to rush anything, I just want to get to know him better.
Skeered Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 Call him up and say you may have reacted to quickly and that you would like to see if there is something there. If he asks you what happened just tell him the truth...you would like to see him more but understand he needs to spend his time with his kids. That's totally fair in my eyes. Just realize that his kids come first and his relationship second.
Author LuvHurts43 Posted April 19, 2006 Author Posted April 19, 2006 Well, I guess it's a wrap. I'm not use to making the first moves. So, I text him tonight... Asked him how he was doing, and stuff. I know that he's a very sarcastic guy so I went a step over and got him back for cracking jokes on me from the last time we hung out (trying to break the ice). I made a comment about his goofy laugh... Well, 40 minutes ago was the last time I heard back from him. He don't usually take that long to get back to me. I really wanted to talk about what happened. I know that he like or did like me. I guess the whole not taking you serious comment caused him to shut down. I lost a great guy... Another lesson learn. Oh, the sad thing is, I really like his personality, because he's not the cutest guy out there. Wow... I got dis by a person who wasn't my type (physically) to began with. Ouch!
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