symbol Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 My ex and I have broken up almost 6 months ago. Ever since then, neither of us has tried to contact. Although at first it was painful to see that he was not contacting me, later I realized that it was more of a blessing that NC was so easy for me. I think I am doing very good on my way to recovery. I did spring cleaning last weekend and I finally had the heart to throw away the roses he sent me on Valentine's day two years ago. I didn't feel bad that I threw them away. I actually felt close to nothing. I was so proud of myself! Then, today my phone just died. I don't think it can be fixed. The problem is that we had this family plan for almost three years and I was still part of it after the breakup. Since we never contacted, I never had the chance to talk to him about it. And I didn't really want to call him for that because I thought he might think that I am trying to test the waters... But now, I just need a new phone and I know I need to get out of the plan. So, I sent him an email a few minutes ago, asking him to call the phone company (since he is the primary account holder, he has to do it) and to transfer my line to me. He has not responded yet. Somehow, I feel a little weird about contacting after 6 months! I hope he doensn't get the impression that I want him back. I actually read the email to a good friend, and she helped me get the right tone and the right words... I just had to write something about this. That's why I am posting this thread. I think I am a little confused right now. Thank you very much for reading it!
Spank'n'Rationality Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 I am sorry to hear about your split; it is always hard, even after 6 months. Anyway, men are idiots (I'm not gay, just bitter ). I just had to say, I love your quote; The Devil's Advocate is a great film! And that bit of information IS actually true. The concept of "love" (especially sexual/regarding a significant other) is indeed so overrated, and it is no different than eating large quantites of chocolate, or even taking certain kinds of medications/drugs; anything that is assumed to be a kind of euphoria (sp?), I am always weary of.
Zeppelin456 Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 I am sorry to hear about your split; it is always hard' date=' even after 6 months. Anyway, men are idiots (I'm not gay, just bitter ). I just had to say, I love your quote; The Devil's Advocate is a great film! And that bit of information IS actually true. The concept of "love" (especially sexual/regarding a significant other) is indeed so overrated, and it is no different than eating large quantites of chocolate, or even taking certain kinds of medications/drugs; anything that is assumed to be a kind of euphoria (sp?), I am always weary of.[/quote'] wow, bitter.
bendit Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 symbol, unfortunately this has the potential to bring you a lot of contact. Phone issues are sticky and there is a lot of back and forth like you need to do this you need to do that they said this they said to do that, etc. So expect some of this now. There may be a way for you to just get a new plan yourself and get the number transferred. This sounds like it could get complicated. Just be ready for some back and forth and Potentially some stuff to come up about the relationship. Time to be careful because you were doing really well with NC. All the best. regards
Author symbol Posted April 20, 2006 Author Posted April 20, 2006 Thanks for the replies. Bendit, thanks for your concerns. I was very nervous that it could lead it to conversations I wanted to avoid. But, everything went pretty smoothly. He replied to my email promptly and told me that he would help me with the phone issue. After exchanging a few emails (exclusively) about the phone issue, I think we got the whole thing resolved. Now, I have my own phone account! I am very happy that it went smoothly. Of course I was affected emotionally. After so many months, this was the first contact whatsoever. We both tried to keep things business like. It hurts to write in that tone to someone you loved so deeply for more than 7 years... But I think I got over it, thanks to good support from friends... For now, we are both back to NC - the safest thing for me... Again, thanks a lot for your concerns Bendit.
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