itsover Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 I'm in a bit of a dilema and need some advice. I've been going out with this guy, Tony for 2 years on and off. I thought our last breakup would be the end for good. We fought a lot over stupid stuff. I started seeing a guy I use to date way back when. I thought I was doing good, but ofcourse Tony had to come back into my life saying that he missed me, loved me, etc. etc. I decided to give him one last chance and I thought this time would be different for sure. Well I'm beginning to think that another chance was a bad idea. I like the other guy I was dating (Chad) before I got back w/ Tony, but I love Tony--and it's making things hard for me. I know it's not fair for Tony or Chad. I am graduating this year and Tony is suppose to be my escort. If I break up with him now, than what does that leave me with for the rest of the year? I have to watch him be with other girls and vise versa? I don't want to deal with that, but we have the same social group. I don't want the highlight of my grad year to be my breakup with Tony and I don't want to lose him. What am I suppose to do now that I'm in this predicament? Should I stay with Tony or go single? Ahhh help me!
tikigods Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 so you are with someone that you have grokne up with a few tinmes, and really don't want to be with, but don't want to dump him cause you don't want to be alone? I think your problem is your self confidence and your self worth if you feel like you need to be with a guy that you don't want to be with in the first place
Author itsover Posted April 19, 2006 Author Posted April 19, 2006 I don't want to be alone..and I don't want to have to go through all that getting comfortable with another guy again. It's taken me so long to get where I am. I don't want to end it and have to start all over again.
MadDog Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 It sounds like you feel compelled to stay with your guy not because you'll be happy with him but because you fear the consequences of breaking up with him (e.g. seeing him with other girls, not having an escort, etc.) I strongly believe you should only be with someone because you're happy with them. You need to evaluate if he does anything for your happiness when you two are together.
tikigods Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 fear of being alone, and in short being lazy to find someone else are two relaly bad reasons to stay with someone
Author itsover Posted April 19, 2006 Author Posted April 19, 2006 this is my conclusion... no I cannot have my cake and eat it too because cake has calories and carbs (Tony being the cake). The only way I can eat my cake is in small amounts. That was something my sister and I came up with while talking about it. Life isn't fair.
Carlthecoffeeaddict Posted April 21, 2006 Posted April 21, 2006 Do you think its fair to these two guys that youre stringing along and messing with their emotions as you juggle them as long as your needs are met? Grow up.
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