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What does it mean a break?

Khanada

By Khanada
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Khanada New Member

Khanada

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Hi

 

I met my bf online, I guess like a lot of people who get into a LDR.

 

He loves me, I love him. Should be fine? Well, a couple weeks ago he asked me for a break, to slow things down between us. It was quite a surprise. I asked if it was a real break or just the begining of the end and he said that no, he still loves me, he's just stressed, thats all.

 

Why a break? I asked. He just got promoted, that's the (super busy) busy season at his job and asked for a break since he's super stressed.

 

A week after that i decided to go out with a girl friend since i had enough of being ignored :rolleyes: I come back home and things get to normal with him. I think he got scared of why I was going out since I usually play with him a lot (online game) or our friends online. He was actually very loving, which surprised me.

 

Now? Well now back to the break, all of a sudden he became distant again. Actually today not even a hello for me :( I didnt message, I stay away.

 

I chose to trust him and to believe that it's not an attempt for a dirty break up.

 

I am giving him his break, I stay nice and available when he needs me since I believe he really loves me, I dont try to initiate heavy conversations about us, wouldnt be a good idea if he's really that stressed. I guess I am just waiting it out!

 

I'd like a man's opinion on that one. Am I naive? Or any girl friends who have been in the same situation.

 

Thanks

Khanada

scottishgirl Member

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hi, its difficult to see whats going on in your boyfriends life when there is a distance. my advice would be to wait it out, i know its hard, i know you will be tempted to get in touch etc. if my boyfriend asked for a break i think i would force myself to make no contact, let him decide when its time to come back/restart. maybe if you suggest one day a week when you can both make time for each other, that way he wont feel he has to make time for you every day and its still a kind of break.

i feel bad for you, i know my heart would break if i was in your possition but it doesnt sound like he is breaking up with you, maybe work,bills,life etc are building up on him and he just needs time to get things in order.

good luck x

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