PlentyLV007 Posted April 17, 2006 Posted April 17, 2006 Alright my peeps!!! You peeps know about my whole " I've never waited this long" thing, and I can't comprehend it??? So...this weekend was a great weekend!!! AWSOME WEEKEND. The more I go out with him and I hang out with him it's like GREAT!!! My friends love him and he love's to hang out and have a good time! Now he got a little too wasted on Saturday night. I offered him to stay over. Now, I haven't had anybody "sleep" over ever .... I mean c'mon...if your coming over it's to get laid...ok...especially me Now I was so NERVOUS!!! It was pathetic actually... My god he is nice....Nice body , arms ...well I mean the package....He wanted to CUDDLE.... I'm sorry I don't cuddle. So I just got on top and I wanted him really bad!!! He stopped me and said ........and I quote...... " I'm too wasted to do this with you and well I really want to please you right" :eek: :eek: So I ..... got off and .....well I couldn't even sleep. In the morning he was full on ready and I was just so... I was cranky, tired from not sleeping and he was trying so hard in the morning...I just coudln't! I wasn't mad but, just dissapointed! So I got over it...but I mean.... GUYS...PLeASE.....help me out here..... I'm venting too but, I'm just shocked you know!!!
blind_otter Posted April 17, 2006 Posted April 17, 2006 So you wanted to have sex, and he didn't -- did he try the next morning and you couldn't? Did you feel kind of rejected? I get the feeling that you are very used to being in control sexually, and that this situation is confusing you because you feel out of control? I used to be very physical with sex. It was a bodily act, something that didn't have any independent meaning. It actually is like that, sex only has meaning if you give it that. Some people don't think like that, though - to them it has a lot of intrinsic importance. I'd been having for a while before I ever made love to anyone.
Author PlentyLV007 Posted April 17, 2006 Author Posted April 17, 2006 See I'm very sexual!!! I love it! With my new guy I've been very giggly like, shy. I have that butterfly, shyness, thing with him. It's stupid! At least I think it is, because I'm not that way. I'm not shy. Yet when I was finally ready to give in...he said (sound of car breaks) hold on...I'm too drunk...and I want to do it right. I mean I'm a big giver okay and well...it's like c'mon dude....I've been waiting for a very long time! Longer than I've ever waited. I doo like him a lot but, I have to initiate it always....Your right blind otter it's a sense of control and when I'm not in control or ever get the feeling of not being in control I don't like it. So in the morning I was very dissapointed and I understood him, but c'mon I was ready for you last night and now I haven't showered and you want some...?? Nah...I'm good! I can wait. Now I'm almost due for that monthly ritual that us ladies don't really look forward to and now I have to wait another week. Man it's frustrating...but I do have to be in control!!! Always...at least sexual!!! =)
tanbark813 Posted April 17, 2006 Posted April 17, 2006 He might have just meant he had a case of whiskey dick.
AriaIncognito Posted April 17, 2006 Posted April 17, 2006 Well, some people need for the time to be right for BOTH people, not just one or the other, so try not to fault him for telling you the truth and saying he was too drunk to take care of you properly. I'd say just chalk it up to bad timing, and try again another time. If you both truly are into eachother, it's sure to present itself again :-) Jennifer
Citizen Erased Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 It sounds as if he is used to women who are the complete opposite to you. Perhaps he has only been with shy girls before and he doesn't know what to expect, which would explain why he doesn't want to take it fast. Or perhaps he just really likes you and so wants your first time together to be special (hence the lack of sex when he was drunk). Most girls would kill for a guy like this, but you clearly wouldn't, so how about you ask him? Ask him his reasons. You seem to be a very confidant person, so just simply communicate or at this rate your feelings for him will be overrun with lust and you may hurt the poor boy
My_Other_I Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 God what a sweet guy! What is it that you are complaining about?! Take an advantage of him before you go drinking next time
SuperMonk Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 Men have feelings too. Unless we want to kill you, with my bare hands roughend by the stones of cold mountain. My forearms rippling with blood veins wanting to destroy nature.
lilly36 Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 God, good men DO exist! What the problem? Drunk sex is OK if you are both drunk, but sounds like he was too wasted. This is a man who is more concerned about PLEASING YOU than he is about PLEASING HIMSELF! What are you complaining about? He is a rare breed- keep him around!
mental_traveller Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 You're shocked and upset that a wasted guy didn't feel like he was in a state to get it on? Oh please! What next - "I'm in shock that my drunk boyfriend didn't want to drive me home, how inconsiderate of him!"
Vertex Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 f***, man, if I were drunk I'd rather be sober so I was intelligent enough to understand the sheer awesomeness of what was going on. The alcohol would stop me from fully appreciating it! That and the alcohol would probably screw up some functionalities if you know what I mean.
aleatoryd Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 Think of it as being far more meaningful that he wanted to wait to please you. Many guys would have just taken the goods and that would have cheapened the whole thing. Appreciate a good guy. It's frustrating that so many people think a relationship is defined by the desire to have sex. Look around and you'll see a lot of unhappy couples giving it away without any true feelings for each other. Stick by this guy!
Mary3 Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 Men have feelings too. Unless we want to kill you, with my bare hands roughend by the stones of cold mountain. My forearms rippling with blood veins wanting to destroy nature. You are one strange dude . When's the last time you got laid ?
MadDog Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 How long's the countdown at now? I just had a date with this pretty cool girl & so about halfway through, I naturally go for the makeout session. She didn't go for it & she said she doesn't kiss on the first date (I thought girls like this were extinct). It's the first time in my dating career I've been turned down for, well, anything. It sort of made me want her more but I guess I might be waiting a while. It's all good though because this one has long term potential. I just hope my loins won't explode in the process. I just wanted you to know, I feel your pain.
amerikajin Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 I vote for 'whiskey dick'...don't worry, LV, he'll be back.
blind_otter Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 See I'm very sexual!!! I love it! With my new guy I've been very giggly like, shy. I have that butterfly, shyness, thing with him. It's stupid! At least I think it is, because I'm not that way. I'm not shy. Yet when I was finally ready to give in...he said (sound of car breaks) hold on...I'm too drunk...and I want to do it right. I mean I'm a big giver okay and well...it's like c'mon dude....I've been waiting for a very long time! Longer than I've ever waited. I doo like him a lot but, I have to initiate it always....Your right blind otter it's a sense of control and when I'm not in control or ever get the feeling of not being in control I don't like it. So in the morning I was very dissapointed and I understood him, but c'mon I was ready for you last night and now I haven't showered and you want some...?? Nah...I'm good! I can wait. Now I'm almost due for that monthly ritual that us ladies don't really look forward to and now I have to wait another week. Man it's frustrating...but I do have to be in control!!! Always...at least sexual!!! =) Hey girl, I'm with you. I've always been sexual to the EXTREME. But...I find that now that I'm a bit older (26, I'm getting my "mom jeans" out, ha ha ha) -- I will be more likeyour BF if I'm dating someone that I think is really special, for some reason. I think he prolly has that attitude with you, and it's weird when you're confronted with it after years of dealing with the opposite. But the other posters have good advice. Take advantage of him before you go out And whisky dick is a definite possibility. He wanted to impress you.
Mary3 Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 Hey girl, I'm with you. I've always been sexual to the EXTREME. But...I find that now that I'm a bit older (26, I'm getting my "mom jeans" out, ha ha ha) -- I will be more likeyour BF if I'm dating someone that I think is really special, for some reason. I think he prolly has that attitude with you, and it's weird when you're confronted with it after years of dealing with the opposite. But the other posters have good advice. Take advantage of him before you go out And whisky dick is a definite possibility. He wanted to impress you. Apparently us women who love making love are coming out in droves ! Excellent !
Guest Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 Honestly you have nothing to worry about. I am a shy guy and feel I've met most of the women in my life because I am blessed with somewhat good looks. I've lied in bed many awkward times with girl's and went through the exact situation. I feel i need to be close and comfortable Before i can truly be intimate. I've never had a one night stand but assure you i have a wild exciting sex life after i become more comfortable with the woman. I recently split up with my ex of two years for different reasons and met someone else. guess what happend our first night togeather you got it nothing, but I overcame my awkwardness with the new girl to be honest it took about two weeks. Now everything is normal again. Chances are he was embarassed as hell and was just trying to re-coop himself with morning wood ;-)
Author PlentyLV007 Posted April 18, 2006 Author Posted April 18, 2006 Wow...so many responses and so many "women" thinking I'm complaining when I'm not. He is a nice guy! A good guy! And yes...Finally there are still some left in the world and he is with me!!!! =) We are so different and so different that it's hot! I learn something from him and he learns something from me all the time!!! Thanks VERTEX for relating and helping me understand a little that he was really interested in pleasuring me sober! MadDog!!!!! Me and you are always on the same page so...thanks for feeling my pain! My guy was over last night.... :D :D Let me just say....Free at last FREE at last!!! The bottle has popped! It was very HOT!!!! =) After all the threads that I read yesterday I decided to take things in my own hands SOBER!!! =) There was a lot of control issues back and forth but, it was hot!!! I've never really given in to anybody, like to let them take over sexually and let me tell you it's ....it's....welll.....ORGASMIC!!!!!
MadDog Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 Congrats. Now I have to see how long I have to wait before my chamapgne bottle gets to pop. The sweet agony.
Author PlentyLV007 Posted April 18, 2006 Author Posted April 18, 2006 Congrats. Now I have to see how long I have to wait before my chamapgne bottle gets to pop. The sweet agony. Sweet Agony sucks ...yes...but, Sometimes its worth the wait? This new girl...how long have you been dating? I honestly couldn't believe no kiss...but I guess every one is different. Well I'm sure second date...it will happen. The pressure of a first kiss....mann....hate it....
MadDog Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 Sweet Agony sucks ...yes...but, Sometimes its worth the wait? This new girl...how long have you been dating? I honestly couldn't believe no kiss...but I guess every one is different. Well I'm sure second date...it will happen. The pressure of a first kiss....mann....hate it.... Our first date was last night. She's cool as hell--I think she just wants to make sure that I'm not only aiming to get into her panties. I can't blame her for that. I'm actually going to wait for us to have a moment--you know, one of those ones where you can cut the sexual tension with a knife--and try to give her the kiss of her lifetime. Then she'll be begging to get into my pants.
Citizen Erased Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 Our first date was last night. She's cool as hell--I think she just wants to make sure that I'm not only aiming to get into her panties. I can't blame her for that. I'm actually going to wait for us to have a moment--you know, one of those ones where you can cut the sexual tension with a knife--and try to give her the kiss of her lifetime. Then she'll be begging to get into my pants. Okay, so compare the first paragraph with the second. 'make sure that I'm not aiming to get into her panties' THEN 'she'll be begging to get into my pants'. Hmn... she may have been onto something!
nicki Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 Yeah, Plenty! Sounds like you both enjoyed yourselves. MadDog, I also don't kiss on the first date. But after I do kiss a man, I know right away if want to be intimate with him. Then I usually want to do that pretty soon thereafter. This woman might be slow to start burning, then will burn out of control....for you!
MadDog Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 Okay, so compare the first paragraph with the second. 'make sure that I'm not aiming to get into her panties' THEN 'she'll be begging to get into my pants'. Hmn... she may have been onto something! Haha. I know it might have sounded otherwise but I'm actually about as into this girl as I can be considering how recently I met her. She's definately showing long-term potential so far. I'm actually glad we didn't mess around and will be taking it slow. Sometimes my animal instincts can get the best of me. MadDog, I also don't kiss on the first date. But after I do kiss a man, I know right away if want to be intimate with him. Then I usually want to do that pretty soon thereafter. This woman might be slow to start burning, then will burn out of control....for you! That's cool. The anticipation of how the future dates will go has me excited. I have a feeling she might be one of those slow but hot burners. My mouth is watering.
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