FNG2006 Posted April 17, 2006 Posted April 17, 2006 Hello everyone. I found this forum just searching around. My g/f broke up with me almost a month and a half ago. Her reasons: #1 "Intimacy is very important to me," Which is fine. We're both working and still attending school full-time so we both live at home. Of course, we don't get busy as often because of that and mostly we hung out during the weekends. I am projecting on getting my own place AFTER I jumpstart my career - you know, something crazy like making sure I'm FINANCIALLY STABLE before making a big move like that. That, of course takes time, and she "doesn't know if she wants to wait that long". #2 "The quality of time we spent together..." We'd usually go to a movie, drive around and talk, hang out with our friends as a group, go to dinner, and sometimes go on a little get away where we spend all of our time together. She wanted "more than that"... #3 My career choice never sat well with her...I'm aspiring to go into Law Enforcement full-time once I graduate college. A lot of her co-workers are either married to or divorced from their husbands who are cops. So, I'm thinking her co-workers probably filled her head with some negative experiences, etc. etc. #4 A lot of her friends (we're both 26) are either engaged, getting married, or have been with their significant others for awhile. I'm thinking this had some sort of affect on her. So 2 months into our relationship - I kid you not - she tells me that within 5 years she wants to be married and possibly have a kid. I told her in 5 years I expect to be out on my own and working and having myself together before starting a family. She took this as me being "more interested in my career than her". I mean...WTF?! You don't leap without thinking about where you're going to land, do you? #5 BEFORE we started dating (which was late November...we didn't become "officially a couple" until late December), she was in a serious relationship. The guy ended up dumping her because of - well, I don't know exactly why and she didn't either. That was two full months before we started dating. I always had this in the back of my mind and confronted her - she reassured me she was "over him". Of course, her ex became VERY jealous once he found out she was dating again...and now from what I hear, they're talking to each other again. Overall, her excuse to break it off was due to our "circumstances" and how it "wouldn't be fair to me or to her". Whatever... The problem? A good friend of mine has been dating my ex's best friend for 8 months now. Talk about things being awkward...I'm just so angry at her right now. I'm just venting mostly, but I'm curious to see what you guys think. I haven't spoken to her since she ended things in the beginning of March. She emailed me 2 weeks after the break-up asking how things were and I responded back a day later with a very short one sentence response...something to the effect of "everything's fine". This past weekend, we all got together (not my ex, just all my friends) and her best friend was there obviously since she's dating MY friend...and things were kind of awkward. She hid behind him at first then didn't greet me. I didn't greet her either. Maybe small talk in the context of a bigger social discussion, but I don't know how to gauge that. I haven't talked to anyone about that, but I'm pissed at my ex and her friend now. I'm being civil, because of the circumstances. Any suggestions? Tips? Anything I did wrong/right? What to do next? Sorry for the really long 1st post. Thanks. -Fxcking New Guy
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