morbidmike Posted April 17, 2006 Posted April 17, 2006 ive been with my gf for a few months now, she dosnt french kiss or allow me to pretty much touch anything except her boobs because of previous boyfriends. she let me take her virginity and is now randomly deciding no sex till shes married...there is pretty much no physical aspect to the relationship so im thinking about breaking up with her but i dont want to hurt her what would you do please help me
ddnnee Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 well she's a virgin and all and u took it away ~ good job. but i think dumping her will cause her to not trust any guy ever again. To decide if she will put out a lot after marriage or not can be hard. She maybe one of those girls who likes to wait till marriage but i guess she failed on that one. Try to stick around a bit longer and hint that you would like a more physical relationship. If she doesn't and maybe she's one of those girls who got molested at a young age, then say bye bye.
Chinook Posted April 18, 2006 Posted April 18, 2006 Um, no offence but if you're there just for the sex then I suggest you find another girlfriend. It seems to me that your girlfriend isn't just being random actually. She seems to be looking for a deeper commitment from you. One that requires you to demonstrate that actually, you love her for who she is, not whether she puts out or not. It seems to me that if you can demonstrate that you DO love her without the physical attachment, then that will make her happy. To give up one's virginity to someone is not something to take lightly you know... it is a very, VERY precious gift and from your post, I'm not entirely sure that you appreciate that and by her actions, it seems that your girlfriend isn't sure you do either. If sex is all that you're bothered about... then I suggest you break up with this girl and give her a chance to find someone who will truly love her for who she is, rather than whether she puts out or not. Chinook
1Gravity Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 Um, it's a crapshoot. One one hand, the control of sex could last well into your married years. Generally, the person who wants the LEAST amount of sex controls it.
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