numsey Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 My GF and had been dating for about 7 months. It the first serios relationship that I have been in in 7 years. My last GF cheated on me and it broke me down real bad. I told her this when we first got together and told her that I was kind of distrustfull about falling for someone again because I didn't want to get hurt like that again. I thought that we were doing well but then last night she comes to me and tell me that she has been hanging out with an ex from years ago who just got out of jail and she might still have feeliungs for him. She says she still loves me but that him and her have 10 years of knowing each other and now she is in love w/ 2 men. She said she needs time for her and maybe we will get back together or if she finds someone who will treat her "like a girlfriend" then we can just be friends. I do love her alot but I don't think I'll be able to be her "friend" and see her with another man. Do I just step back and try to move on or should I try to fight to get her back?
CaliGuy Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 Kick her to the curb. Period. Anyone that came to me with that story I would send packing. She has issues to still care for a guy who's been to prison for who knows what. Sorry. Read my guide to second chances. Not to reconcile, but to move on.
Big_A Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 It seems hard to give up, but the only way you are going to have any reconciliation with yoursefl and a potential future with someone else is to do what is right. Since she is not going to be in your life act in a way that will make people proud of you when you tell the story in the future.
Author numsey Posted April 17, 2006 Author Posted April 17, 2006 Thanks Caliguy. Your handbook will help but what do I do now. She told me all of this on Sat. night. Then on Sunday she calls me 4 times. Asking me if I'm all right, have I eaten anything, do I want to have dinner with her and her mother, can we hang out Wed. What is going on? Is she just playing games and messing with my head or is she having second thoughts now? Do I go over there and hang out or do I tell her to just leave me alone? I don't know what to do. I want to see her but I could just be setting myself up far a "kick in the nuts". Somebody, anybody help.
WeaknPowerless Posted April 17, 2006 Posted April 17, 2006 Take a look deep down and your answer will be there. Sometimes we set ourselves up just to get hurt. We secretly know we made the wrong decision just to prolong being with someone. I think everyone of us here, at some point wanted to prolong our relationships, no matter what the other person did to them. If you can honestly not see her sorting through this (giving her the benifit of the doubt due to a lengthy history with someone and having confused emotions) and you see her hurting you later on, then cut the ties right now. It's admirable to fight for what you want and what you believe in, but you have to think about the war and not just one battle. Please keep in mind all these responses are from people who have been in your shoes (in a manner of speaking) and have been hurt by supposed loved ones. You're not alone man. Find a litte piece of mind knowing that your hurt is shared amongst a million others. There's no justice in heartbreak, just don't hurt yourself anymore then you have to.
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