hugznkisses21 Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 Ok I met this very very cool guy....amazing...funny...we have a great time togethe and are obviously attracted to one another. He came out about 8 mths ago from a 12 year relationship - hes 29 - and was married for 2.5 of those years.... So he doesnt need commitment or any serious relationship currently. I totally respect that and he has been very upfront about being honest and telling me that is he was dating others or not....so far since we have been doing things toegther he has not but u do know he is on and off dating websites.....where we met. But has not met anyone since me. I myself have come out of a serious relationship and would not like to jump into anything. So i think since a serious relationship is all i have had I thnk my question is.....is this right....that we see eachother enjoy eachothers company, laugh and smile and go on dates occasionally are intimate (we are very much attracted to eachother) but not have any true commitment. I mean myself im not sure i like being one of many....but i am leaving my options open and i suppose so is he and we have agreed to be honest about everything cause we dont want commitment. Is that wrong? Can this possible turn into more?.....i dont expect that but for now its ok to just enjoy the moments we have with eachother? Thanks in advance guys? Im new to this dating again....
Curmudgeon Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 It would make sense to me if you two were exclusive and could simply remain friends with benefits but if he's going to have other relationships as well, presumably sexual in nature, I think it's risky both emotionally and physically.
Author hugznkisses21 Posted April 16, 2006 Author Posted April 16, 2006 even if he was going to be honest if he decided to date others as well and if i do?
Curmudgeon Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 Only you know your capacity and tolerance for shared relationships. If you're OK with it then that's what matters in the end. I'm a great believer in exclusivity but that's just me. Mikey don't shaaaare!
Author hugznkisses21 Posted April 16, 2006 Author Posted April 16, 2006 i suppose all this just dating but nothing serious thing is sooo new to me...anybody else have any inputtt?
Sand&Water Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 Ok I met this very very cool guy....amazing...funny...we have a great time togethe and are obviously attracted to one another. hugznkisses21 That's where it should STOP. Nothing more will come out of it. I suggest you either stay friends or walk away. If you continue along the choosen path you're now on, don't expect someone to save you from "Deep End of the Pool". (JMO)
Author hugznkisses21 Posted April 16, 2006 Author Posted April 16, 2006 is this for certain?..... would it be wrong for us to date? nobody knows the future right? Date non-seriously....have a great time together???
aleatoryd Posted April 17, 2006 Posted April 17, 2006 Stay as friends, enjoy each others company and make sure you don't rush into anything... don't be the rebound! If he doesn't want a serious comitted relationship why should you offer him anything more than friendship? Limit the amount of hurt that could come of this.
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