dino1 Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 I have encountered a situation that has really puzzled me. I met this (seemingly) sweet guy (whom I'll call "j") at some friends' house about 2 months ago. Whenever I would see these friends (a guy-girl couple), each of them tells me that "j" always asks about me (my whereabouts, whether I'm single, when I may return to their house to visit). About 2 weeks ago, we went out for a drink ( the couple, "j," another male friend, and myself) and, because it was late when we returned, we all slept over the couple's house. Well, "j" and I slept next to each other, but there was absolutely no sex; He was a total gentleman, and he even put his arms around me all evening in his sleep. The next morning, he asked me if he could have my phone number. I gave it to him, and he said that he would call me (he didn't say when). One week passed, and still no call. I saw him a week later and asked, casually, why he didn't call. He stated that he is always on the road and rarely uses the phone, but he insisted that he not only thought about calling me, but wanted to go out for a date. But, another week passed, and still no call. Finally, while at our mutual friends' house at the end of the second week, I asked him if he would like to come over and visit. he did. This time, he did call me from his cell phone, but to find out where my house was. Once again, no sex, but sleep; This time, however, he slept on the couch and I slept in my bed. The next morning, we had what seemed to have what appeared to be a civil but general conversation about current events and such. Before he left, he stated once again that he wanted to go on a date with me (this is all voluntary on his part--at no point have I asked him to call me, or to take my phone number). Tired of being reactive, I decided to text him this past Thursday evening: he did not respond to it, so I decided to take an even bolder step--I called. He answered, and even seemed to be happy that I called. He asked me when I next planned to visit our mutual friends' house (not whether we could date, or whether he could come back over). He explained that he was out of town. that he got my text message and "was going to text back," and that I am welcomed to come to where he is. Feeling good about this offer, I kindly declined the invitation (as I don't know him well enough to visit him out of town) and emphasized to him that it is not a sign of weakness to call me. he kindly stated that he would, but still no call. What gives? I know that this is long, but I had to give all relevant details. PLEASE HELP!!!
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