ParanoidOrNot Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 after a very long time having an online relationship, i finally met my girlfriend... everything was so perfect, the best time of my life... but after i came back to the country i live in, when we talk on the phone or online, we cant have the same fun we had before we met, we dont have so much to talk about anymore if its not to remember what we did, ill be able to visit her again in 2 months, but our relationship is not going well now that we are far from each other again.. what can i do to fix this???
scottishgirl Posted April 21, 2006 Posted April 21, 2006 hi maybe the problem is that the phone calls cannot compare to the actual time you spent together, when i first got into my replationship it was purely via msn, then once we had a phone call the msn just wasnt the same, it wasnt enough, now we have the webcams its like that again. maybe if you plan another meet it wil give you both something to focus on and talk about. good luck x
luvvedupnyc Posted May 3, 2006 Posted May 3, 2006 I'm in the same boat... since I met him we're different online... i think the s***teth may have hit the fanneth!
Guest Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 After 4 years of online friendship and 7 months of having feelings for my bf we actually met in person when I flew to England to see him. We also had a great time and have thought about the future and everything. I came back to the US and didn't know how I will feel or if he was going to change, but everything was the same and better, we talked everyday online and always had something new to talk about which was great, but two weeks ago he left to take a summer somwhere else in a campsite... So far, I havent received any letters or emails, he did mention he didnt know how easy or fast the post there will be, but I am starting to worry ......but all I can tell you is that maybe you guys shouldnt talk to each other everyday, that way the next time you guys talk can actually have something to talk about, keep the faith if you love her and I know how hard it is to be away from the person you love but you guys can make things work...at least you can talk to her often....I can't Good Look and keep the faith!!
Keen Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 I've been in an online relationship for 3 years now with a guy from England. After the 2nd year, he came to visit me and we had a great time, and when it was time for him to return home we were...well, let's just say that after he passed into the immigration gates and turned back to wave goodbye, both of us were struggling unsuccessfully to hold back our tears. There is no way to avoid or prevent the pain or missing when the two of you part ways, but remember that you both still need to lead your own lives during this time. You and she need to go to work (or go to school), to take care of your daily expenses and physical well-being. If you're feeling low, allow yourself some time to cry or waddle in your grief, let it out. But after that, you should get up and continue with what you need to do. Again, there is no hard rule to fix this, but one good way is to find yourself a project to get involved in. For example, I saw some spare cloth sitting in my room, so I decided to use it and sew some new cushion covers for my mother. Things like that to occupy your time and take your mind off missing your girlfriend/boyfriend. Maybe you like basketball, so go to the park and practice shooting hoops, perfect that spin or something. Try something new like baking cookies so that next time you meet your girl, you can surprise her and say you learnt to bake! Oh, and webcams! They really are a BIG help!
justagirliegirl Posted May 8, 2006 Posted May 8, 2006 I strongly agree about having things to do to keep busy until you see each other again. The first 3 times we were together, things were the same when we got back. The last 2 have been different because he doesn't have regular net access. Plus I think a large part of it is that we just need to be together in person now. Real life is so much better than online and we both know it so sometimes we struggle with online.
luvvedupnyc Posted May 9, 2006 Posted May 9, 2006 Yeah we talk as much as we can but time differences are a major pain and we dont talk every day... as we do so much at weekends. I try and keep busy... but I stress over stupid things that I may see... I must admit.. MySpace is half the angst cos of friend who he has (who i have met) but still worry....
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