chrismikayla Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 Hello all, I am new to this forum. I have been divorced a year and feel I am ready to date. Although I'm a little embarrased to admit this, I have very little experience dating. I started my first long term relationship at nineteen when we moved in together. I lived with her for three years. Six months later, I met my wife and we divorced last year. I have never lived a "bachelor's" life and this has been an adjustment. I am not sure where to start meeting different women for casual dating right now. I tried online last month but have gotten only a couple of responses. Any advice would be appreciated, thanks. Sometimes I feel lost out here as I feel I,m new to this dating thing at my age(30).
MadDog Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 Considering how many people get divorced, you're probably one of hundreds of thousands of people who find themselves in your situation. What type of social network do you have through your work & friends? That's the best way to meet people. You can also try taking some classes. Maybe yoga or something. I hear lots of hotties are into yoga. I recently met a girl at a club & we've got a date planned. People say bars & clubs aren't great places but it works for me. She seems way too pretty & intelligent to be single though. I'm half expecting her to tell me she has a kid or something equally crazy on our date.
Author chrismikayla Posted April 16, 2006 Author Posted April 16, 2006 MD I work in social services with the vast majority of my co-workers females. I do believe some of them are interested but I am somewhat uncomfortable dating someone from work, even casually. But to answer your question, most of my network is from my job.
Rosalind Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 I do believe some of them are interested but I am somewhat uncomfortable dating someone from work, even casually. never date a co-worker...trust me on this
Author chrismikayla Posted April 16, 2006 Author Posted April 16, 2006 I hate to bring this up but do you think being a single parent runs away potential dates. The saying is that this scares men away but women also? Today's society is all about "me" and many people are unwilling to date people with children maybe. I wonder how many more responses I would get online if I left out being a single parent.
littlepiggy1 Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 Tips for online dating: Don't put too much info in your profile. Keep it short and somewhat vague. List general interests, but don't be specific. 1-2 paragraphs tops. If you're too specific it comes across as being limiting. It also gives women something to ask about in conversation. Leave out anything negative. Do NOT be negative. Can't stress this enough. Try to be unique. I can't tell you how sick I am of reading the same "I just want to find a nice guy, meet new people, blah blah blah". Leave out kids, past relationships, divorces, etc. That's stuff that can come up in conversation once you've got past the initial contact barrier. Also include something about what you would do on your ideal date. And a profile pic is a must. Use a pic that shows your good side, smiling, the whole bit. And if you don't have any good pics, get some professional portraits taken. You'll meet far more people if they can look at you first.
MadDog Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 MD I work in social services with the vast majority of my co-workers females. I do believe some of them are interested but I am somewhat uncomfortable dating someone from work, even casually. But to answer your question, most of my network is from my job. Like others have said, it'd be wise to avoid intracompany dating. Maybe you could make an effort to be friends with some of them at least so you might get a few intros. Just make sure she's not a hater or else it won't do you any good. As far as the single parent deal, it will weed out the ones who are just looking for a good time so that's a good thing.
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