david_gray63 Posted April 15, 2006 Posted April 15, 2006 I think my 3 month relationship is coming to an end, but could do with some advice before finnally calling it a day. Shes special to me. I'm 23, shes 21. everything in our relationship was great, until a condom broke and she freaked out. She took the pill, and didnt get pregnant, but since then weve only had sex a couple of times, and its time when it seemed like the done thing to do (on her birthday for example). She became very negative about absolutely everything. Her anti-sex attitude soon developed into an anti-affection attitude, and she would pull away from kisses quickly, or avoid them completely. She stopped me touching her body, saying that she "felt fat", and covered herself up all the time. The sexyness and passion just dropped right out of our relationship. Ive been trying to get her back into affection, and being sexual with each other; the other day we had a strictly "no sex" day in bed, naked, kissing, touching, sucking...our way to climax. I made her cum twice (something she finds hard to do), and then she gave me a blow-job (this is all after about an hour of kissing and holding and cuddling and talking - before you call me an insensitive sex obssed man). We had a cuddle, and i got hard again, and hinted that i could go again if she was up for it. We joked a bit, and i made it a bit clearer that i was actually up for it, i joked "oh go on, you got what you wanted...twice!", and she snapped back "you mean YOU got what YOU wanted", then she got out of bed and got dressed. After a few min of silence she said she didnt mean it the way it came out. The damage was done. I was ALMOST bought to tears by her comment. It hurt me so much. Today, i told her i was unhappy, but i love her and dont want to lose her. She said that this is the way she is, and she doesnt know what she can do to put things right. Im really depressed and upset. When its good its great, but this has been going on for almost 2 months now, and yesterday hurt me so much I dont know if i want to drag out what could continue to be a terrible relationship. What can do I? What should i do?
ddnnee Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 you should find what makes you happy. If she makes you happy, then keep her, but you have to deal with her shortcomings. If you don't like how things are and you can predict where it will go in the future for both of you, then find another girl. Now I know most guys find it hard to think straight when they are blinded by love... but think hard. i'll give you two current situations that is occuring with my friends as of this moment. friend 1: he has a girlfriend who demands a big ring and a big wedding. Somewhere in the range of 30K and she does not plan ahead for their future: as in no house, no car, no anything. He loves her so much, but hates her spending power. He's willing to get pussy whipped - tho he never had her pussy before. friend 2: this guy has pussy twice a month and is married. She hates all his friends and his family. They both recently moved out of county so that they can be isolated from familiars. He really likes his friends and love his family - but he chose the girl. both guys made a decision and stuck with it. Your girl has her flaws but sticking with her is your choice. Personally I would would just leave her because I've been with enough girls and all of them dumped/cheated on me. My tolerance for girls are very low and i would dump any girl whom i deem unfit/unworthy of my time. Most girl's sex drive decline rapidly after marraige (verified in a sociology -family class college textbook). Only SOME, RARE, girls have high sex drive after marriage. Your girlfriend have already put a ban on sex with you and have had a bad experience with you. It can only get worse and if you don't mind becoming celibate, then ok.
justagirliegirl Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 you should find what makes you happy. If she makes you happy, then keep her, but you have to deal with her shortcomings. If you don't like how things are and you can predict where it will go in the future for both of you, then find another girl. Now I know most guys find it hard to think straight when they are blinded by love... but think hard. i'll give you two current situations that is occuring with my friends as of this moment. friend 1: he has a girlfriend who demands a big ring and a big wedding. Somewhere in the range of 30K and she does not plan ahead for their future: as in no house, no car, no anything. He loves her so much, but hates her spending power. He's willing to get pussy whipped - tho he never had her pussy before. friend 2: this guy has pussy twice a month and is married. She hates all his friends and his family. They both recently moved out of county so that they can be isolated from familiars. He really likes his friends and love his family - but he chose the girl. both guys made a decision and stuck with it. Your girl has her flaws but sticking with her is your choice. Personally I would would just leave her because I've been with enough girls and all of them dumped/cheated on me. My tolerance for girls are very low and i would dump any girl whom i deem unfit/unworthy of my time. Most girl's sex drive decline rapidly after marraige (verified in a sociology -family class college textbook). Only SOME, RARE, girls have high sex drive after marriage. Your girlfriend have already put a ban on sex with you and have had a bad experience with you. It can only get worse and if you don't mind becoming celibate, then ok. And if you find one that does, hang on to her and treat her like gold!
ddnnee Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 "And if you find one that does, hang on to her and treat her like gold!" oh ya, if you find a girl with high sex drive that is... that's a keeper.
daphne Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 David, You sound like a nice guy. The fact that there is a dilemma tells me so. IMO, if the sex doesn't work out early it's just going to go downhill from there. In my experience, without a good sex life the relationship itself doesn't do very well long term. It probably does wane after years of marriage from waht I hear. I was married for 4 years and that never happened but that's not long. Personally, sexual compatibility is really important and I don't think you'll be happy with this girl long run. It doesn't even sound like she wants to talk about it which is worse. I would suggest you try that first in a non threatening way if possible. and justa, I'm that girl but my guy's still letting me go. he'll have to learn the hard way I guess.
Mary3 Posted April 17, 2006 Posted April 17, 2006 I have a high sex drive Her not wanting to have sex with you is a danger sign. P:eek: Lease pay attention
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