kellyp1 Posted April 15, 2006 Posted April 15, 2006 So, I had an ex over for dinner last night, we never lost contact after dating, stayed occasion friends. The dinner was something I had offered awhile ago and kind of came up because he had helped with some stuff for my new business. He came over, we had a great dinner, talked for a few hours after and then watched a movie. During the movie, we did some light cuddling and he left after the movie with a quick kiss. We are not dating at all but there is definately still some feelings there between us. He said thank for the great meal, great company and the fact that he always has a good time with me and then left. Here is my question, how can I tell what his intentions are? Is it possible that it is just more of I care about you as a friend feelings as opposed to anything else that had him offering light affection last night? When we dated, he was never really affectionate with me. We were always in our corners of the couch or all over each other or out and about the town. I am not sure what I want the answer to be but it is definately confusing. Would be interested to hear opinions on what the LS group thinks.
Art_Critic Posted April 15, 2006 Posted April 15, 2006 Ask him to come over for a repeat dinner and movie and go from there I think things will fall into place all by themselves and you won't have to push yourself to do anything specific
alphamale Posted April 15, 2006 Posted April 15, 2006 this is why I say ex-lovers should never stay friends, because almost always one of the two wants to hook back up. you can give him another go but most likely it will end for the same reason(s) as before.
Curmudgeon Posted April 15, 2006 Posted April 15, 2006 I agree. The only signal I'd ever get from the ex would be half a peace sign.
Author kellyp1 Posted April 15, 2006 Author Posted April 15, 2006 Alpha and Curm - It ended for timing reasons a few years ago (he was fresh from a breakup) before but we both liked each other enough to stay friends. Like I said, I am unsure what my reaction would be if he was looking for more but it kind of felt like there was reason to wonder. Art Critic - I think I will play this out and see where it goes. We both respect and care about each other a lot. And I know some people have broken up, gotten back together at more appropriate times in their lives and had it work. I have a lot of other things going on and not a lot of time to devote to being with anyone anyway but I think keeping the door open is not too bad of an idea.
alphamale Posted April 15, 2006 Posted April 15, 2006 Alpha and Curm - It ended for timing reasons a few years ago (he was fresh from a breakup) before but we both liked each other enough to stay friends. well KELLYP1...my personal take on this is that if there were true strong feelings between you two then there is no way you could stay friends with each other.
Author kellyp1 Posted May 3, 2006 Author Posted May 3, 2006 Well, as irony and my luck would have it, I had a reason to be confused by his signals. He said he had a really great time with me and was torn because he has always been really attracted to me. He said he did not want to send the wrong signals because he has no intention of having a girlfriend right now in his life and that he didn't want just a hook up either. So, Alpha, I conceed. Ex should = past life, not present. He is not someone that I can be friends with.
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