littlepiggy1 Posted April 15, 2006 Posted April 15, 2006 Sometime I've been curious about... Is there a correlation between people with esteem issues and people who are judgemental? IOW, is a person who is judgemental about something likely to have esteem issues about what they are judgemental of?
Yasin Posted April 15, 2006 Posted April 15, 2006 Sometime I've been curious about... Is there a correlation between people with esteem issues and people who are judgemental? IOW, is a person who is judgemental about something likely to have esteem issues about what they are judgemental of? I sorta understand what your trying to get at. Do you mean that people who are judgemental are that way because they have self esteem problems themselves? and they want to find faults in others to boost their own image. if thats what your saying, then yes, a lot of people are just like that.
Author littlepiggy1 Posted April 16, 2006 Author Posted April 16, 2006 Yeah that's pretty much what I was aiming at. The reason I wonder is I was thinking about some behavior that my ex exhibited. She had low self-esteem about her appearence, but she also seemed very critical of other's looks. I always wondered if one was the result of the other. Then maybe I can predict this sort of behavior in the future.
johan Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 People are often most critical of things in others that they don't like in themselves. For example, a person who seems to be extra-critical of what they perceive to be laziness in another probably struggles with that in their own lives. I used to be very judgmental of people. Or actually just critical. I think it's different. Unconsciously I figured everyone was better than me somehow. I grew up around critical people. Even though they didn't criticize me much, I picked up on all the things they thought were unacceptable in others. Some of those traits I had myself. It took a long time to get past that. It's a habit though. When I'm upset with myself for things, I start turning on others.
magda Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 People who are very critical of themselves are just used to thinking that way - always finding fault with everything.
monkey00 Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 Yeah that's pretty much what I was aiming at. The reason I wonder is I was thinking about some behavior that my ex exhibited. She had low self-esteem about her appearence, but she also seemed very critical of other's looks. I always wondered if one was the result of the other. Then maybe I can predict this sort of behavior in the future. i think the general population, particularly women have some kind of self-esteem issue in one form or another...you can say it's normal. behavior is far from predictable, it's what makes us human. But be with someone long enough (family/friends/SO), you can gain a better understanding of why they may behave the way they do. But to actually read what's going through someone's head will likely never happen. But i pretty much agree with everyone, being judgemental often does have a correlation to one's own self-esteem. Everyone's done it at some point. in between there also lies jealousy, perhaps of someone's looks/money/power...you try to look for flaws in those deemed better by society to boost your ego or belittle the other. The media do it all the time, scandals..celebrities....president clinton. But i think as a society, and as a human desire, humans need to be judgmental, there always needs to be a bad guy in some form or another. i mean look at the U.S. and iraq....but that's a whole other debate on another scale...similar concept of good vs. bad. who's to judge what's right and wrong really? ...hypocrites..who needs em?
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