She needs time thing?

[dt3498]

O.K to start off my girlfriend has hit me with the i need time thing. It all started off because she had called me and I thought i heard a guy in the background when she told me she was hanging out with one of her female friends.I could have sworn it. Then about a hour later i call her back and confront her about it because i didnt do it right there, and she starts crying and hangs up. Then i call back and tell her i caught you lying i know what i heard and she tells me im bugging i didnt hear no guy. So whatever then the next couple of days go by and she tells me she needs time right now. Now on both ends we have been thru this trust thing with accusations. but in 2 years together we have been through alot of stuff bigger(loosing a child together ) alot of stuff bigger than this little fight. So now she tells me i need time to think if i want to be in this relationship i dont need anyone accusing me. She tells me how much i hurt her self esteem etc. etc. Then she hits me with well im not holding you back from seeing other people, im not seeing anyone now but if it comes along im not going turn down "hanging out" with someone. What do I do give her space? try to make this work and get past this little fight? Was i right about the other guy and she just doesnt want to say it and this is an easier way out? Any advice on what i should?

thanks

[Twilighthero]

Honestly bro, this is what my female and male friends have told because currently I am going through something similar. My g/f wants/needs time. But anyways, one question you have to ask yourself is…

• Is she worth the time it takes to work it out?
  
• Are you willing to be alone during this time?
  
• And do you TRULY love her?

What she said seems like it was bottled up, and this fight was what let it all out. I know there was more said than that, but you have to get past the fact that she has probably been feeling like this for longer than one week or so. Now, I was forced to ask myself those questions because taking time doesn’t mean that you’re broken up. It’s just a temporary hiatus, a time to collect and reflect and let YOU figure out your perception and outlook on the course of this relationship. You never know, maybe during this time you will say what she said. Enjoy the time apart, embrace it and think that if you survive this (which it has come to be my belief that if BOTH of you want it bad enough it will happen) you two will come out of it stronger. Now the other guy? Well it could honestly all be in your head, we guys that are in love tend to jump to pretty outrageous conclusions regarding our significant other. It’s an ingrain jealously. It could have honestly been just a friend. But you have to also take the other stance, that maybe it was something more. You have to be willing to erase that thought out of your mind. Listen if you love her, take the break and if she comes back then she is meant to be yours. If she doesn’t, then honestly you could find someone else. Just stay strong through it and be around people that care for you, close friends, siblings etc. etc. And don’t dwell on it, it makes you look to clingy, leave her alone for a couple of days and just like she is doing, go do your own thing.