Davidh290 Posted April 14, 2006 Posted April 14, 2006 I just starting a new job and there's this woman that is in my training class, She is amazing. I have been flirting with her for a week, and I am stuck on that. if I don't make a move I might loose her because the class breaks up next saterday and there is enough people at this job that it would be like finding a needle in a haystack... Today she was trying to get me to smoke but I don't smoke and we started flirting and It went pretty far... she said that she was pretty persuasive, and then was like we better stop before Hr heres this... I didn't know what to say.... So my question is how do I go about getting a date with her?
jerbear Posted April 14, 2006 Posted April 14, 2006 I remember my first training day! I sent her flowers and flirted, talked and stuff. Didn't know she has some really high up eyes and ears of the organization. Ask her out on a date by asking her to go to a bar after training friday or sat. from there you two separate from the group and go from there. Heck during break, do a city search and see what you two want to do before HR finds out.
Author Davidh290 Posted April 14, 2006 Author Posted April 14, 2006 The thing is I only met her on monday... So do I just go up to her and be like so want to go out some time? I am usually to shy to even think of doing this...
jerbear Posted April 14, 2006 Posted April 14, 2006 I shy too but I still sent her flowers and it was on the 2nd day. I you two are having fun, ask her to happy hour and go from there. Maybe even a short coffee break somewhere where you two can sit down. That may lead somewhere.
Yamaha Posted April 14, 2006 Posted April 14, 2006 If your doing all that much flirting she already has an idea that you like her. The next step is to ask her out. She can either say yes or no and your anxiety will be much reduced. Just remember that women like it when a man shows interest and does something about that interest. It shows her your confident. So get a move on.
Author Davidh290 Posted April 14, 2006 Author Posted April 14, 2006 well shoot ok I will get a move on. Next thing is it seemed like I spent a lot of time with her today, ike all of our breaks I went with her while she smoked... should I lay a little low next week? maybe just go out with her on our lunch break or something? I think I am going to just to be safe. Then there's when and how to ask... There isn't much to do after work... we get off at 2pm... and so far all Iknow is that she likes to run, drinks one cup of coffee before she does, likes to go to the bars, smokes, and that she walked in on her boyfriend of 1 year cheating on her with his other girlfriend of 1 year. We can't go to a bar really because she runs at 1:30am to beready for work at 4:45am. She is also on a diet I think. I have to go do some thinkng on how to ask her... any suggestions would be much apprieciated
jerbear Posted April 14, 2006 Posted April 14, 2006 Since you know about coffee and running, ask her to coffee. Just do it, don't lay low. Just because she is on a diet, does not mean she does not eat.
Author Davidh290 Posted April 14, 2006 Author Posted April 14, 2006 K well We work to early for coffee... no place that's open 24hrs. She also was interested in me teaching her how to cook... hmmm i need to find something fast...
jerbear Posted April 14, 2006 Posted April 14, 2006 food in the bedroom, think strawberries, champaigne! How about a filet mignon? Poached salmon? Fetticinni with red sauce?
Author Davidh290 Posted April 14, 2006 Author Posted April 14, 2006 Ok I think I have the answer! Sunday when we go to work I am going to aske her if she is still interested in learning how to cook. If she is I will then tell her that if she wants to go with me there's this place where you cook your own meals but they show you how to make it and then you take it home and cook it... it's like 20 bucks for 6 meals it is so cool. It takes 2 hrs. then we could go back to one of our places and cook it. How's that sound? I like it a lot
Author Davidh290 Posted April 14, 2006 Author Posted April 14, 2006 Should I give her like a rose or something and have it sent to her at work some time next week?? I think I should wait to see if this works out but i think it should be done.
jerbear Posted April 15, 2006 Posted April 15, 2006 Should I give her like a rose or something and have it sent to her at work some time next week?? I think I should wait to see if this works out but i think it should be done. wait till after the cooking. The roses are a little to fast, try some other floral arrangements. red flowers, freesias, lilacs, lillies, etc... Avoid roses for now. I do not usually send roses the first time. Good luck.
Author Davidh290 Posted April 16, 2006 Author Posted April 16, 2006 yeah I thought so. I just saw that you sent flowers.... I am not that brave to give a girl flowers this soon any way...
ddnnee Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 how bout gathering all your balls together and just ask her "wanna hang out?" A straight question for a quick straight answer. If she responds with any answer besides "yes", then she has placed you in the friendzone. If that's the case, then you can forget her.
hyakku Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 First. Flowers. No. Why? You don't know too much about this girl, and it telegraphs way too much interest. For all you know she could be a boring sack of s*** after work, what you need to do is get to know her and have fun before trying to dive into a relationship. Relax, just enjoy yourself. Second, ddnnee if she says, her mother died or something and she starts weeping in front of him, that doesn't necessarily mean he's in the friend zone. (I agree with you I just wanted to play the devils advocate). Third, great routine. The food, tehy show you how, then you do it at your house. Theres plenty of venue changes to keep the date fresh, you will definetly be talking and having fun learning how to cook even if it doesn't come out well, you should be getting in lots of physical touching during the time, maybe you can get into on eof those littel food fights, whatever, just keep it fun. Don't immediatly embark on your opinion of the United States Federal banking system or something equally pointless unless she has some type of weird fetish with it. Just focus on you and her having a great time, having fun, because everyone values fun. Her other core values you will have to elicit on the date, or on later dates to find out what other emotions and things she finds important (Excitement, lust, happiness, etc. People like other emotions more than others). Really though, take the laid back approach. I know its gonna sound cruel but its not. Act like you don't need her. You don't. There's what? 3 - 3.5 billion women out there, there are actually more women to men on the earth if I recall correctly. If this one doesn't work out, look at how many more you now can go meet. Remember, relax and just focus on fun.
MadDog Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 First. Flowers. No. Why? You don't know too much about this girl, and it telegraphs way too much interest. For all you know she could be a boring sack of s*** after work Jesus man. Point taken but that was extremely harsh.
hyakku Posted April 16, 2006 Posted April 16, 2006 Well I mean, anyone could be I'm not saying just this woman. I mean think about it, most people act differently in school/work/church/whatever environmental settings, so in order for you to actually show this girl that you actually think she is worth something, you need to at the least find her values, morals, etc, see if you like them, if you are STILL interested in HER after she qualifies herself to me, THEN i can telegraph my interest to her. Having good looks isn't enough, she has to prove that she is more than just eye candy with me.
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