lynni31 Posted April 13, 2006 Posted April 13, 2006 hi I am new to this site and what to hear any advise i can get . I was seeing this guy for about a month. We started by emailing for a couple of months and at first he was hesitant to start anything because he was out of work and said he wanted to be able to impress me. But we starting seeing each other anyways and he called me everyday ( sometimes several times a day) , told me how much he liked me all the time and even referred to himself as my b/f and told me i was his "significant other". The last time he called me he said he would call me the next day, but then poof ! just stopped calling out of nowhere. So after about 5 days I called him and asked what was going on. He says that he was sorry he didn't call that he was going to call me but a lot had happened and it suddenly occured to him he had no job or money and had nothing to offer a girl like me and needed to focus on getting a job at this time and nothing else. I asked him to be honest with me and tell me if he were interested in someone else or didn't want to see me anymore, he replied that no he was not seeing anyone else , not looking for anyone else and that he was being honest that it he is a man and has his pride and needs to find a job before he can be with me and that as soon as he has a job he will call me? Will a guy really stop seeing a girl he likes because of manly pride ? And I was thinking of e-mailing him ( it has been a few days ) but was told I shouldn't .. that I should follow the one week rule.. that I have to wait one week before e-mailing him. So what do I do now ? Should I trust him and wait? Do I really have to wait a week before e-mailing him ?
MadDog Posted April 13, 2006 Posted April 13, 2006 Just sit back and wait to see what he does. If he never contacts you again, you can conclude he lost interest. There's really no way for you to find out earlier what his intentions are. I've noticed a pattern with a lot of posts on here. A ton of people are in a situation where there's nothing to do but wait & see but they get impatient. They want to know right now what's going on but sometimes there's no way to tell until later. In the process they even push the people who were initially interested into a state of disinterest. Example: This past Sunday, I called this hot chick I recently met to see if she wanted to kick it. She didn't pick up so I left a message. She didn't call me until Wednesday. Now, I could have wondered & even obsessed about it between Sunday & Wednesday. Instead, I totally forgot about it & did my thing. I figured if she's interested, she'll call back. If not (highly unlikely based on the vibe I got from her but possible), then there will always be another hot chick out there. I'd have lost nothing more than 1 minute calling her & leaving a message. But I can totally see a ton of people from here in that same situation obsessing about whether she would call back--maybe even calling her a second time & harrassing her & making her lose interest. Patience is a virtue in the dating game.
Author lynni31 Posted April 13, 2006 Author Posted April 13, 2006 thanks , but i was hoping for answers , i am going to just wait it out. But i guess i wanna know does a guy really just stop seeing a girl he likes just for "manly pride" ? After all making me confused is hardly impressing me like he claims he wants to do .
RedneckRomeo Posted April 14, 2006 Posted April 14, 2006 Well - from what he has told you - I don't think it is JUST pride - but it is somewhat related. He said he has no job, which means no money to take you out or anything, and he doesn't want to go out with you like that because he does have his pride and doesn't want to come across as a loser or anything.
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