the_alchemyst Posted April 13, 2006 Posted April 13, 2006 . . . Yep. I went to visit his mom today and we were chatting about that has been happening lately. She told me about all the new things they're doing to the house, and I just told her about some stuff that has been going on and such. There was hardly any mention of C. She did ask me if I had talked to him, and I told her about the phone call, and she asked me why I hadn't called him back. I explained to her that I hadn't because he told me in the message he left me to not call him ("Don't call me at home because I'm not home. <pause> I mean, don't call me, okay?"). She replied saying: "Oh, come on! Of course he wasn't going to sit around by the payphone waiting for you to call him back!" True, I had not thought about that, but in the end I still think he meant to not call him period, which is stupid because it's not like I was calling him, so why would he call to say "hi" and to tell me to do something that I wasn't doing in the first place? She also told me that yesterday she yelled at him because his friends kept calling and calling and calling. She kept telling them that he was working, which he was, but they would keep calling until she got fed up and disconnected the phone. When she told me this, she very slyly sneaked in: "But only guys calls him," which made me smile. She said that she gets annoyed because she knows they call only because none of them have cars (because they are that much of good-for-nothings), and since he does, they always call to ask for rides. Anyway, that was pretty much it as far as talking about him goes. Then she had to go pick up his little sister a school, and asked me stay and wait, and I did. And then . . . you know what I did? I ran upstairs to his room. AHH!! He always locks it, so I was expecting to find a closed door this time, but it was opened . . . I went in and one of his little sisters (3 yrs old) followed. I didn't look through anything, but I did look around, mainly looking for my stuff. Everything is exactly where I left it. Everything. I did open one drawer and his closet, though. The only reason I did was because I wanted to see if my things were still in there, and they were. In his drawer my erm, *cough* "nightgown" was still there (it was the only thing he used to put in that drawer, and it was the only thing in there this time, with the only addition of one of his . . . briefs.), and in the closet, the only thing I wanted to see was if my jacket was still there, and yes it was--hanged in the very same place. Nothing had been changed. And then I just couldn't help myself--I plopped down on his bed. Wtf? I just sat there feeling all sad. Eesh. But then I heard his mom so I grabbed his little sister and ran downstairs. She didn't say anything about me being upstairs. It was like she didn't care. Then she had to leave again for some job interview and apologized for that, and told me I had to go over again to chat better, and then asked me I could watch the little girls until the oldest one got home. Of course I said yes. So I was there for about another 2 hours. So, now I feel all weird. I feel bad because I went into his room. I also feel bad because when she was talking to me, she kept referring to her husband as my "father-in-law" just like always, even though she knows we're not dating anymore. And then I also felt bad because of his "friends" because it makes me feel like he's just going out a lot and not missing me or thinking about me in the slightest. And I also feel bad because he called me. And lastly, I feel bad because he still has everything in his room, and I already put mine away. Why do you think he still has my stuff in the exact same place where I left them? If he really doesn't care, then shouldn't he have put them away or thrown them away or whatever by now? It's been exactly 1 month, after all. Sigh. Oh, and I'm worried his little sister will tell. She's 3 and she's not allowed in there cause he doesn't like it. Oh, man I hope she doesn't. I can't believe I did that. >__<
MadDog Posted April 13, 2006 Posted April 13, 2006 You are heading down a very dark path. Kinda reminds me of Anakin Skywalker in Episode III. I anticipate you will end up hooking up with him and doing that whole "I slept with my ex" post.
Citizen Erased Posted April 13, 2006 Posted April 13, 2006 You are heading down a very dark path. Kinda reminds me of Anakin Skywalker in Episode III. Alright then Yoda :lmao:
Author the_alchemyst Posted April 13, 2006 Author Posted April 13, 2006 You are heading down a very dark path. Kinda reminds me of Anakin Skywalker in Episode III. I anticipate you will end up hooking up with him and doing that whole "I slept with my ex" post. Why would you say that, Yoda?
2020vision Posted April 13, 2006 Posted April 13, 2006 This is very self destructive behavior... Yes, it is tempting to be in his room. However,just because he has your things lying around still, does not mean he wants to be with you...This could just be a sign of pure laziness...He probably does indeed think about you still and miss you, but has he asked for reconcilliation?? NO As far as I am concernced, his mother is toxic to you. She is giving you shreds of hope that you should not be receiving. You just have to stop ALL contact. You need to stop receiving information to talk about. I have found (and am frankly still working on!) that as soon as I did not allow myself to find out anything new about my ex, then there was nothing new to talk about or dwell on and after some time had elapsed thoughts of him just fade away. Basically any form of contact that you make will just allow you to keep thinking and analyzing. Stop wasting your time with the analysis of his room's contents and his mother's comments, go out and live your own life!!
KittenMoon Posted April 13, 2006 Posted April 13, 2006 However,just because he has your things lying around still, does not mean he wants to be with you...This could just be a sign of pure laziness.. I agree- my ex still hasn't dropped my stuff off at our friend's house. Do I think he's keeping my stuff out of emotional reasons? Well, I'd like to think that but I don't. I think it's one thing... laziness! (Because the 5 min drive to our friend's house would be killer!) Goddamn it I'm angry today... Anyways, Alchy- get away from his family. You're sabotaging yourself.
2020vision Posted April 13, 2006 Posted April 13, 2006 I agree- my ex still hasn't dropped my stuff off at our friend's house. Do I think he's keeping my stuff out of emotional reasons? Well, I'd like to think that but I don't. I think it's one thing... laziness! (Because the 5 min drive to our friend's house would be killer!) LOL and Trust me, you want to keep yourself ignorant about these kind of details. I was in denial and had convinced myself that I could be friends with my ex after our breakup. We would talk on the phone everyonce in a while. Well, one time we were talking and he told me how everything in the room (that was once ours) reminded him of me. So, he then proceeds to tell me how him and his new g/f moved everything around and how he put different pictures up..etc... This one cut deep, and it almost still hurts to think about it now. I had to talk about this with my friends for a good two weeks before I even began to let it go...So, please keep yourself from these kind of details!!! If anything, learn from my mistakes! Goddamn it I'm angry today... I can sympathize with you on that one...For some reason, anger is the only emotion I have left for my ex and I cannot seem to get rid of it... Anyways, Alchy- get away from his family. You're sabotaging yourself. Well said. -2020
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