vin1272 Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 ok well here is my situation. I have been with my girl for about 5 months now, and i really do care about her. here is the problem.....she is heavily into drugs....smokes alot of pot and is completely abusing her prescription drugs (xanax). her friends are all into the same thing, and all she does with her friends is drugs. when i pick her up from her friends houses....she is always completely high. even after i told her that please have some respect for me and be sober when i am going to see you. i left her when my father recently passed away and all i wanted from her was to be there for me.....and she went out to a bar (she is a "recovering" alcoholic by the way) got completely drunk and called me drunk and very late that night. she wasnt there for me so i left her. we are back together after she promised to get herself in a rehab program and try and straighten out her life. never happened. she told me she stopped taking xanax...never happened. she is always high when i see her and it really bothers me. any advice would be GREATLY appreciated:) vince
tikigods Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 my advice is find a new girlfriend ;D this one is way to wrapped up in herself and her vices and you will never be number 1 to that, I think the biggest dela breaker is when she wasn't there for you during an emotional time frame. Find somoene that has their life better together
Walk Posted April 13, 2006 Posted April 13, 2006 By staying with her your telling her that you accept her behavior, and condone it. You're enabling her. Do both of you a favor and get out of that relationship. You can't change her. She has to want it for herself, and she's shown that isn't what she wants. I would be devestated if my SO went to the bar and got drunk when my parent died. How cruel. And now she's betrayed you again by not following through on a single promise she's made.
la_ant Posted April 17, 2006 Posted April 17, 2006 As Dan Savage would say: "Dump the motherf***er already!"
LiLMegz Posted April 17, 2006 Posted April 17, 2006 If i were you, I would leave her. She doesnt seem to care about your feelings. You dont want to be dragged in to her drug problems. Since shes lying to you about it chance are she will probably keep doing . and who knows what else shes is lying to you about ! but i wish you the best or luck <3 Megz
Author vin1272 Posted April 18, 2006 Author Posted April 18, 2006 well it turns out you were right...i should have left her. just found out that she cheated on me the other day (she denied it up and down until i found teh evidence...and she still lied to me about it) it wasnt until i dragged it out of her that she admitted to cheating. blaming it on her "bad" friends and drugs. she is also crying every day about it and swearing up and down that it was a one time mistake and will never do it again. i have my suspicions that this probably wasnt teh first time either that it happened. im quite tired of the lies.
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