Guest Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 this is a long story but here goes.last june i met a man who was 40 and i was 21.we met in a club we both went in and some of my family go in too and a couple of them work there.the first time he came over to me when i was sat with my family he said she's so gorgeous but she's so shy whys that ? and he was making a fuss of me.the next time i saw him i was out with my family again and he was sat at another table.they got up dancing and i was sat on my own then he came over and told me he liked me.for the next few weeks he kept coming over when i was sat with my family.the next time i saw him he was sat at the bar and he was smiling at me for along time and when he came over to chat to us he winked at me.a while after i asked him if he wanted to swap phone numbers and he said he'd ring me when he got in.my battery went on my mobile so it got through to voicemail and he tryed ringing four times and left four messages asking me to ring him which i did the next day and we arranged to go out on our own.this was in july.that night he never let me pay for anything when we went out even though i offered,he went mad when this 22 year old sat with me and said he liked me and kept putting his arm round me and tryed to pull my chair away from the man i was with.one of my mums cousins asked me if i wanted to leave with her because she was going to a party and i said im ok .i cant remember what she said next but she shouted i mean it to the man i like.it was something like he better look after me.i saw another of my mums cousins later and she said ignore my mums other cousin and its nothin to do with her what we do.we went out on our own once again in august ( inbetween then we just saw each other in the club with my family around ) this next nigght out was a great night we chatted and had loads in common and we had a laugh.a while later though i found something out about his past that i didnt like the sound of.one of his friends told my mums uncle he'd heard i was related to him and had seen me out with my fella and said he wanted to warn me that he's bad news and he used to go in phone boxes when he went on holiday and ring prostitutes ! i spoke to him about it and he said it was true but it was when he was in his 20's and early 30's.suddenly after that he rang me less and sometimes when he was in the club he didnt talk to me when i saw him and sometimes i didnt see him.we got talking again and he said he was sick of my family interfering and he kept saying he'd changed from the past and i was a girl who could calm him down and he wanted to change coz he'd met me.and he said i was the best thing that ever happened to him.and he always winked at me alot ( i loved it when he did that it gave me a boost ) i always felt more confident round him.the last night out we had together was in october and again we had a laugh.but then the phone calls stopped completely i rang him a couple of time both in november i think.he made excuses not to see me.i saw him again in december but that was only because i'd gone to the club with my male friend.the man (the 40 year old.actually he'd turned 41 then ) said who's that to me meaning my male friend and i said he's just a friend.and he kept staring and winking at me as usual and he gave me a kiss on the lips and said all the best .this was the week before christmas eve.on christmas eve he sat with me and i even stayed at his house and in his bed ( nothing happened if you know what i mean ) the week after i saw him again and he said he still wanted to be with me.afew weeks went by and i didnt see him.i knew he was in the club coz people had told me but he was in another room.i was upset that i hadnt spoke to him for ages.once at the end of january he sat with my family when i wasnt in and asked where i was ( he always asked them that when i wasnt in.last time i saw him was on 12th february.i did something i probably shouldnt have done.he wasnt talking to me again so i went into the room where he was and said hello and he said he'd come in in a minute.i went to the toilet as i was abit embarrassed and i later found out my gran had said to him your just leading her up the garden path how could you do that to an inexperienced girl when she's had no experience and he said your just wasting your time.when i came back he blamed it on my family again and he told me he wanted to take me on holiday with him and do something for valentines day.and he gave me a kiss when i left.i asked him if he wanted to do something on valentines day on the day and he said he was going out for a meal for his friends birthday.i havent seen him or spoke to him since.yesterday i told my gran i miss having him as a friend and dont mind about not being with him she said since then she's had women who dont even know that me and her know him coming up to her and mentioning his name to her but she didnt tell me what he'd said.and she said he'll chat to any women whether she's alot younger or even alot older ! and he'll go round town with them or even spend one night with them.she'd also told me though that he'd spoke to my mums uncle and he said he thinks im a lovely girl and im beautiful and he likes my family but he thinks im too young for him. i just dont know what to think and i want to see him again and tell him i know whats been said since i last saw him but i'd still like to be friends with him.what do you think ?
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