Vertex Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 I notice so many people posting problems and then giving advice elsewhere at the same time, both here and in life. The advice is sound and yet the problems seem to be full of confusion. Do you think it is harder to diagnose our own issues? What if we simply give our problems a new name other than our own, and look at them as if they are from another person? Would it be easier to solve the problem? Has anyone tried this?
blind_otter Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 It's been a perennial truth that it is much easier to give advice, then it is to follow it.
TheSwordfish Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 Remember a lyric from a song going like this: You need to find a way to look at yourself, without being biased on your own behaviour. Well isn't that extremly hard?
whichwayisup Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 It's easier to give advice, help others with their issues than sit and deal with your own crap. Atleast in my experience...I prefer to give advice rather than take it...I'm not real good at taking advice from others...Though I'm better at it now than I used to be.
CaliGuy Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 I notice so many people posting problems and then giving advice elsewhere at the same time, both here and in life. The advice is sound and yet the problems seem to be full of confusion. Do you think it is harder to diagnose our own issues? What if we simply give our problems a new name other than our own, and look at them as if they are from another person? Would it be easier to solve the problem? Has anyone tried this? It's simple, really. When we view our own problems our heart and emotions become involved clouding our judgement. When we're viewing other people's problems we think logically without emotions or the heart interfering. That is why we often give good advice but have a hard time putting it into action for ourselves.
Lights Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 I notice so many people posting problems and then giving advice elsewhere at the same time, both here and in life. The advice is sound and yet the problems seem to be full of confusion. Do you think it is harder to diagnose our own issues? What if we simply give our problems a new name other than our own, and look at them as if they are from another person? Would it be easier to solve the problem? Has anyone tried this? We have to keep in mind that different people have different experiences, different backgrounds, different areas of expertise, and so on--that's why such advice is possible. I could advise a friend of mine effectively if he needed help cutting off a friend of his who chose to betray him. However, I couldn't help him if he asked advice in finding more dates. Trying to view these as being someone else's problem wouldn't improve my own ability to give (or use) advice on the matter since it would not alter what knowledge I have or do not have regarding solving the problem. What you're suggesting does seem like it can have potential for cases where one has a problem which is within one's own immediate knowledge and powers to solve, but where one does not solve it due to denial or some other irrational evasion mechanism. Just my opinion.
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