fooled Posted April 12, 2006 Share Posted April 12, 2006 It was 3 months ago today that I was trembling, sick, crushed, confused, brutalized, humiliated - in a strange city with a group of strangers and trying desperately to find a way to cope with my 3 day old devastating breakup - and I found this place. Who's to say what I would have done had I not? Something drastic? Maybe. I was completely emotionally crippled. This place steadied me - kept me sane and steered me in the right direction. I'm doing okay on my own now - still having bad days and good days. 3 months seems so long ago - but 3 months from now much shorter. Thanks, everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
riobikini Posted April 12, 2006 Share Posted April 12, 2006 B-I-G S-M-I-L-E What else can I say? LS is truly a 'lifesaver'! And life does get better! -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
GB111 Posted April 12, 2006 Share Posted April 12, 2006 Congrats, Fooled. Unfortunately, I just initiated NC last Saturday after giving her a nasty piece of my mind. After telling me she wasn't seeing anyone, I caught her with the same guy she told me she had left for me. Needless to say, I'm having a tough time of it. Today, and each day, I have long periods of good and bad. Right now happens to be very bad. I talked myself out of seeing her a couple of times today. I just hope I can keep this up. During the 1.5 months I allowed her to drag me around, she was constantly coming back to me, but never fully committing to me. My fault for letting it happen, but I really loved this person. I finally just reached the point that I could not take it any longer, and decided on NC last Saturday. Amazing how nasty and mean people that once loved you so much can become. Wish me luck sticking with my NC. I want so badly to speak with her, but I know that there is absolutely nothing to be gained. I think it's tough because you (or I, as the case may be) don't WANT it to end. The real challenge seems to be getting over the hump of realizing that you've been disrespected and that you deserve better treatment. I'm doing my best, but I'm on an emotional edge right now... Link to post Share on other sites
Author fooled Posted April 12, 2006 Author Share Posted April 12, 2006 Honestly, I'm having a bad spell this week, too. Actually wept briefly today. Last week however, I hardly thought about her. It's work, dude. You have to just not care whether she's happy or sad. I find myself missing the good parts of the relationship, but then have to remind myself that it was only an illusion. You CAN get to the point where you don't care. I had it for a week. Trying to get back in that zone now. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted April 12, 2006 Share Posted April 12, 2006 Dude! Glad to hear you're doing well. You have my number so call me anytime you want to chat. And I agree, you have to learn to let go. To forgive, cut the ties that bind you and move on. Who cares what the ex is doing now? Once they cut you out of their life we should be doing the same. They don't deserve to know how you are doing anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
trone Posted April 12, 2006 Share Posted April 12, 2006 Agree with you Cali, but sometimes it is back to get in to the "zone" that fooleed was talking about. I do not need to explain you, you have been there as well. I was doing very well with no intention to see or break NC but yesterday but out of blue, I heard the guy sitting right next to my desk talking to her for business (we work at the same institution). Then he came and told me that " I think I just talked to your ex". This reminded her to me again and since then I have been thinking about her. The question is what should I do? I want to get better because in couple months, I will move to middle of nowhere in middle east for a year and dont want to go through it over there without no one around me. Link to post Share on other sites
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