littlepiggy1 Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 ... and I'm starting to feel better. In fact, lately I've been feeling pretty good. Now that I'm out of that relationship, I realize that I'd been feeling, well, stifled. Sure there were good things in the relationship. But I realize that there was this undercurrent... This feeling of things that she had done that indicate to me now that she wanted me to be different. That certain things about who I was was simply incompatible with what she wanted. And that by trying to balance the relationship with myself was hurting me and making me unhappy. I've finally truly realized that. And that next time I get into a relationship, I won't let that happen. I am who I am. I'm not going to compromise that.
MadDog Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 Now that I'm out of that relationship, I realize that I'd been feeling, well, stifled. Sure there were good things in the relationship. But I realize that there was this undercurrent... This feeling of things that she had done that indicate to me now that she wanted me to be different. That certain things about who I was was simply incompatible with what she wanted. And that by trying to balance the relationship with myself was hurting me and making me unhappy. I've finally truly realized that. And that next time I get into a relationship, I won't let that happen. I am who I am. I'm not going to compromise that. I've been through that too. I'll hook up with a girl & start a relationship. One of the things she would initially be drawn to is my outgoing personality & friendliness. All of a sudden, she's my g/f & now my friendliness (not flirting) to girls is a problem. I've yet to get with a girl who hasn't tried to change me in some way. The day I meet one who doesn't try to change me and says, "You are great the way you are. I'm so lucky I found you." is the day I've found myself a keeper/potential Mrs. Mad Dog. 1. I'm not an emotional guy. I can understand if someone is sad, upset, etc. but don't expect me to be anytime soon. 2. I fantasize about threesomes with 2 hot chicks. Yes, if I'm single & I had a chance, I'd probably go for it. 3. I'm trying to establish a career right now so I can't always make everything about you. 4. Yes, I think Jessica Alba is hot. Am I really that off the wall? I don't think so.
Author littlepiggy1 Posted April 12, 2006 Author Posted April 12, 2006 Reminds me of a line I heard once. "Women marry a man expecting him to change, and men marry a woman hoping she never changes." I noticed that with my ex she gradually shifted her view on certain things. Things she was okay with at the beginning of the relationship (and I didn't hide anything from her) she began having issues with 12-18 months later. Suddenly things that were okay before became "compromises" for her to accept now. Oi. Ah well, it's over with. Time to move on...
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