beefy Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 ok so yea, ive noticed this alot with women, they always want to go to bed at the same time. Its annoying, if i want to stay up late watch tv or on the comp or somthing she will bitch cause she dont want to go to bed alone. Any other guys get this? and girls why does it matter?
Tim'sAngel Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 ok so yea, ive noticed this alot with women, they always want to go to bed at the same time. Its annoying, if i want to stay up late watch tv or on the comp or somthing she will bitch cause she dont want to go to bed alone. Any other guys get this? and girls why does it matter? If I do that it's cuz I wanna get laid
magda Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 His snoring helps lull me to sleep. Anyway, if we go to bed at the same time we will wake up around the same time. He doesn't mind... usually if it gets late because he was playing video games he will say, "How did you let me stay up so late?" like it is my job to tell him. So I take my job seriously.
Elyssa Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 Or how about something as simple as cuddling? My husband works early AMs so he goes to bed very early and usually goes to work before I even get to bed, so we can only actually sleep on bed together during the weekends, and I get annoyed if we can't, because I miss the cuddling -E
littlekitty Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 I don't mind if my SO doesn't come to bed at the same time as me. He sometimes stays up late watching a film or something, and I'm tired I'll go off to bed. I admit that I like know he's there, but I'm fine and soon drift off to sleep.
SmoochieFace Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 ok so yea, ive noticed this alot with women, they always want to go to bed at the same time. Its annoying, if i want to stay up late watch tv or on the comp or somthing she will bitch cause she dont want to go to bed alone. Any other guys get this? and girls why does it matter? I used to get this... until I kicked the wifey out. My new GF is much more understanding of my need to sit up late and watch a cult movie or two *after hours*.
SoleMate Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 Cuddling. Affection. Conversation. Sex. Other forms of intimacy. Bedtime together is a great chance to do all of the above activities, which help reinforce your relationship. A compromise would be to go to bed together, and then when she falls asleep, you can get up and play on the computer. Or watch your movie in bed with earphones.
bab Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 We almost always go to bed together. Usually late nights is "our" time anyway. So, it's kinda routine. We chat and talk about our day while getting ready for bed. Then we cuddle and talk somemore once we get in the bed. It's a very intimite time and I feel very close to him during that time. No interuptions, just the two of us. And practically, it works out better for gettin' some.
EnigmaXOXO Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 I think certain rituals are important when it comes to keeping couples bonded together. Like a kiss good-bye in the morning before work … or the hug "hello" in the afternoon. Or something as simple as holding hands or cuddling on the couch in front of the TV. For the same reasons, we try to make it a habit to go to bed together each night. I'm a light sleeper, so I usually have to change rooms when he starts snoring … but I just like being there with him until he drifts off and closes his eyes. Perhaps it's just my limited experience, but I've noticed that couples who make a habit of not going to bed at the same time … or sleep separately in different rooms … tend to grow distant and unaffectionate towards each other over time. Since I'm unable to sleep when someone is snoring or hitting the "snooze" button on the alarm fifteen times … and I toss, turn and steal all the covers … I think at least going to bed together at the same time each night has turned out to be a great compromise for us.
Sami_D Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 Going to bed at the same time is good for a relationship. Those times are important, bonding, intimate. I think relationships can survive if both people don't mind separate bedtimes. But if one of them is feeling neglected because the other wants to do separate things at that time of day... it's heading for the rocks. Why not find a g/f who likes to stay up late watching tv..?
alphamale Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 Why not find a g/f who likes to stay up late watching tv..? Look SAMI_D, here are the top three things that matter to women: 1) shoes 2) sleep 3) chocolate Ergo, there are not too many women out there that like to stay up late for whatever reason...
a4a Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 Look SAMI_D, here are the top three things that matter to women: 1) shoes 2) sleep 3) chocolate Ergo, there are not too many women out there that like to stay up late for whatever reason... Not this one 1. sex 2. having a great time 3. money 4. money to buy good chocolate No time to shop for shoes or sleep when you are busy doing all those things
blind_otter Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 I don't mind going to bed separately actually. When he passes out on the couch I have to either strandle him naked or do something sexual to wake him up to go to bed (because if he wakes up alone on the couch he gets all pissy).
serial muse Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 Going to bed at the same time is good for a relationship. Those times are important, bonding, intimate. I think relationships can survive if both people don't mind separate bedtimes. But if one of them is feeling neglected because the other wants to do separate things at that time of day... it's heading for the rocks. Why not find a g/f who likes to stay up late watching tv..? Funny...I'm always the night owl in my relationships; just the way I've always been. I've often cheerfully watched movies/played video games late into the night. I like the quiet late-night hours. But unlike the OP, I kind of like being talked/coaxed into going to bed earlier than I normally would...means the guy cares and/or wants some action, either of which is fine by me.
catgirl1927 Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 I like to go to bed at the same time because 1. sometimes I would like to have sex or 2. He ALWAYS wakes me up when he comes to bed. Always.
Tim'sAngel Posted April 14, 2006 Posted April 14, 2006 Look SAMI_D, here are the top three things that matter to women: 1) shoes 2) sleep 3) chocolate Ergo, there are not too many women out there that like to stay up late for whatever reason... Ahem... as a aomen, may I please speak for myself? You got the shoes and chocolate right, oh, and you left out money!! but actually, I am night owl, so is S/O. If it wasn't for sex at night we would prolly be up all hours of the AM.
dgiirl Posted April 14, 2006 Posted April 14, 2006 I agree with this whole thread. My exh and i went to bed at different times, and we even had separate blankets. I strongly believe it caused us to grow distant throughout the years. I think certain rituals are important when it comes to keeping couples bonded together. Like a kiss good-bye in the morning before work … or the hug "hello" in the afternoon. Or something as simple as holding hands or cuddling on the couch in front of the TV. For the same reasons, we try to make it a habit to go to bed together each night. I'm a light sleeper, so I usually have to change rooms when he starts snoring … but I just like being there with him until he drifts off and closes his eyes. Perhaps it's just my limited experience, but I've noticed that couples who make a habit of not going to bed at the same time … or sleep separately in different rooms … tend to grow distant and unaffectionate towards each other over time. Since I'm unable to sleep when someone is snoring or hitting the "snooze" button on the alarm fifteen times … and I toss, turn and steal all the covers … I think at least going to bed together at the same time each night has turned out to be a great compromise for us.
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