krispie Posted April 11, 2006 Posted April 11, 2006 On a first date, should the guy pay (ex. movie) or should it be kept separate?
tanbark813 Posted April 11, 2006 Posted April 11, 2006 The guy should pay and he should take the girl somewhere other than a movie.
TheSwordfish Posted April 11, 2006 Posted April 11, 2006 You should just do whatever you want. Rule of thumb is that teh person who initiates teh date pays. Some argue that a movie is crap, because you can't talk in the cinema. But walk to the place (gives space to talk) and go have a drink afterwards and you have a nice way to get to know someone (and always the movie to talk about, go to a short movie though, not three hours). Movies work better if you know someone already. If someone is completely unknown I wouldn't go to a movie (you can't bail out).
SuperMonk Posted April 11, 2006 Posted April 11, 2006 I agree with the above, if you both have a lot in common in the first place, and you both like the same movie and you both are comfortable sitting close together - going to a movie on first date is not a bad idea. Probably not a good idea if you've just met her once or twice for short periods.
ImWithHer Posted April 11, 2006 Posted April 11, 2006 The guy pays for the date. Period. Don't forget to open doors and if its cold, give her your jacket.
Lights Posted April 11, 2006 Posted April 11, 2006 On a first date, should the guy pay (ex. movie) or should it be kept separate? Not necessarily. Unfortunately, there isn't a clean, just answer to this one. Some might say that the ones who invite the other on the date should pay, but all too often in practice it is discriminatory against men, who disproportionately do the inviting. There isn't really any rule for this. and if its cold, give her your jacket. I couldn't disagree more. A reasonable degree of preparation for a social outing should happen on all sides--this means people of both genders should bring and be ready to wear their own jackets if jackets are applicable to the location's weather conditions and clothing customs.
Vertex Posted April 11, 2006 Posted April 11, 2006 Unfortunately, while "whoever initiates the date, pays" is an appropriate rule, too many people have a "guy pays for the first date" mentality so if you don't do it, you might send the wrong message. To be safe, the guy should pay for the first date. Just my opinion.
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