NightsInWhiteSatin Posted April 11, 2006 Posted April 11, 2006 Me and my ex split up a few weeks ago...lots of things have been going through my mind and i've experienced alot of different emotions. My ex had cheated on me with my best friend in the very first week of our relationship they 'just kissed and fondled eachother' apparently and my b/f was the one who told me and my friend was the one who lied to me and tried to keep it secret. They were also both drunk. My best friend had this thing where she liked to go for any guy who was my boyfriend or has been my boyfriend and would throw herself at them till she got somewhere with them. She had been trying it on with my other friends boyfriend the same night. I decided to stay with my ex b/f and he swore to me he'd never do anything like that ever again and says he wasnt even attracted to her and doesnt have a clue why it happened. I dropped the 'best friend' because it's not the first or last time shes done something like that and i dont need it in my life. Anyways..since we broke up one of my friends bought up the cheating on me thing that happened over 8 months ago and i've found it going through my mind over and over and thinking some really negative thoughts getting really hateful towards my ex and wanting to say things to him like 'i should have dumped you the second you owned up to cheating on me' and things along them lines....but while i was with him i'd forgiven him and was gradually starting to trust him more and more and now i've just snapped and gotten all mad with him...why is this? is it because im just hurting alot because of him at the moment with the whole breaking up thing?
KittenMoon Posted April 11, 2006 Posted April 11, 2006 I hope your "best friend" is no longer that. What "best friend" would do such a thing?!
catgirl1927 Posted April 11, 2006 Posted April 11, 2006 Because you guys are breakiing up you're probably focusing on all the bad stuff in the relationship. I think that's normal.
dgiirl Posted April 11, 2006 Posted April 11, 2006 Because you guys are breakiing up you're probably focusing on all the bad stuff in the relationship. I think that's normal. I think it's normal AND useful to get over someone. Read "Uncoupling". It explains this phenomena of focusing on all the negatives to help both parties move on. It's useful but dont ACT on it. But use it to move on and find better.
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