To Reply Or Not To Reply?...That Is The Question! lol

[NightsInWhiteSatin]

ok...i've not contacted him for 4 days and he hasn't contacted me...i've avoided going online switched off my phone etc feel loads better!!!

 

Last night came home drunk and all happy and merry went online and he messaged me and i replied without thinking lol before i knew it i'd broken a no contact for a while deal i had with myself...oops!

 

He said he'd just got in from work and needed to go make something to eat so while he was gone i saw it as my chance to end the short conversation we'd had and run off to bed...this morning i woke up to this email he'd sent me which is very out of character for him...he hasn't gone out of his way to email me like this since we first started to get together properly...he isn't one to put himself out there in the open in making contact he normally waits for me to get the ball rolling...

 

Hey you

 

Just missed you, I cooked scampi and chips... gonna get fat, go straight to my hips!

 

I hope you have sweet drunken dreams tonight and say hi to everyone for me tomorrow. Sorry for this short email, Im sllleeeppppyyyy! I'm glad your ok and doing fine, been thinkin about you alot and wondering how you were but it s better sometimes to let things breathe, for both of us. and remember...I'm gonna set you up with billy lol!

 

Sweetdreams Kimothy

 

xxxxx

 

ok...now do i reply...and start talking to him again??? or shall i leave it a little longer till i feel like talking to him...because right now i don't miss him all that much because it's the same as it's always been....lack of him lack of attention etc i feel alot happier than i was with him because im not getting upset over this or that and blaming myself for it etc....but i don't want to send a bad signal to him by not contacting him...what do you think?

[the_alchemyst]

I think everyone here is going to tell you to not contact him.

 

As for what I can tell you . . . do what you feel is right.

 

But this is coming from someone who misses the exbf dearly and actually wants to contact him after he broke NC, but doesn't because she's scared, so . . .

 

You might wanna take the advice in the first sentence. =)

[CaliGuy]

Without knowing the entire story, all I can say is have you read my Second Chances guide?

[beefy]

I think everyone here is going to tell you to not contact him.

 

As for what I can tell you . . . do what you feel is right.

 

But this is coming from someone who misses the exbf dearly and actually wants to contact him after he broke NC, but doesn't because she's scared, so . . .

 

You might wanna take the advice in the first sentence. =)

 

great advise,