dfly2006 Posted April 10, 2006 Posted April 10, 2006 Back in Jan my company hired a new receptionist, and I fell for her right away. One of my friends wives suggested that I ask her to lunch, and nervously, I did. She said she couldn't, because of her job. After 3.5 months I do know that she does not go to lunch, ever. She heats something up and goes back to her desk. So, In the back of my mind, I am thinking that maybe I should ask her to coffee or dinner. My first question is, if this were you, and you had some intrest in me, who you then ASK ME to dinner or coffee? Also, in the past, when I approach a girl and talk to her, right away they will add in to the conversation that they have a boyfriend, so as to let me know that I have no chance with them. This girl, however, never says anything about a boyfriend. I'll say how was your weekend, and she'll say "oh, I just did family things". One time I asked her if she did anything special, which was my way of seeing if she would say that she went on any dates, and her answer was "I went out on Saturday, but just during the day" My second question is, Am I crazy or is she dropping hints that she might want me to ask her out? As a disclaimer, I am 42 yrs old, 5-7, and I have never had a girlfriend. I am pretty damn unattactive. Maybe this is just a real nice girl, who wants me as a work friend, and thats it. That would be cool. I just have this crush because she treats me so nice. Any help would be appreciated.
Noos Posted April 10, 2006 Posted April 10, 2006 She's being polite but wants to keep her work and home life separate. If she were interested, she'd make an effort to seek you out and talk to you. If I liked the guy, I'd offer an alternative time or offer to go to coffee. Sorry - forget her.
blue636 Posted April 10, 2006 Posted April 10, 2006 She's being polite but wants to keep her work and home life separate. If she were interested, she'd make an effort to seek you out and talk to you. If I liked the guy, I'd offer an alternative time or offer to go to coffee. Sorry - forget her. +1 Sorry, guy. I think she might be polite just to save your feelings. Don't push it or you may put her in a position to have to hurt (reject) you.
sazzya1987 Posted April 10, 2006 Posted April 10, 2006 Back in Jan my company hired a new receptionist, and I fell for her right away. One of my friends wives suggested that I ask her to lunch, and nervously, I did. She said she couldn't, because of her job. After 3.5 months I do know that she does not go to lunch, ever. She heats something up and goes back to her desk. So, In the back of my mind, I am thinking that maybe I should ask her to coffee or dinner. My first question is, if this were you, and you had some intrest in me, who you then ASK ME to dinner or coffee? Also, in the past, when I approach a girl and talk to her, right away they will add in to the conversation that they have a boyfriend, so as to let me know that I have no chance with them. This girl, however, never says anything about a boyfriend. I'll say how was your weekend, and she'll say "oh, I just did family things". One time I asked her if she did anything special, which was my way of seeing if she would say that she went on any dates, and her answer was "I went out on Saturday, but just during the day" My second question is, Am I crazy or is she dropping hints that she might want me to ask her out? As a disclaimer, I am 42 yrs old, 5-7, and I have never had a girlfriend. I am pretty damn unattactive. Maybe this is just a real nice girl, who wants me as a work friend, and thats it. That would be cool. I just have this crush because she treats me so nice. Any help would be appreciated. It doesn't sound like she is intrested to have a relationship with a work colegue. I suggest you be friends with her and 'build the foundation'. Who knows she may get to know the real you and start to have feelings for you and something may happen
TheSwordfish Posted April 10, 2006 Posted April 10, 2006 Wait dude... stop saying this: I'm 42 and unnatractive.... Please.... you arent unatractive! You never had a girlfriend, but it has nothing to do with your looks! It is your attitude and lack of confidence. Try to have high self esteem and walk upright. I am almost six feet six tall have a tight cheekbone, I am not a muscleman but am tall and well trained, tight cheeck, look al little like Tom cruise (YUK,I guess.....) Seriously I'm ugly, but many girls call me hot an check me out and I act as if I am hot, even though I sometimes scare myzelf looking in the mirror... do the same! Thing is, woman don't fall for just looks. I had it happen to me quite a few times, that a girl calls me handsome and tall and thinks of me as good looking, but I don't get anywhere with them. After initial spontanious contact (wich is my strong point, Its my job to be spontanious so I do that quite easily) and getting a phonenumber I get confused and I blow it. Only had some sexual relations with pretty girls and never had a real girlfriend either. Read my date canceled thread. See how I blew it, even though a girl thought I looked good initially. Its more about personality then looks when you get beyond the first glances.
Yamaha Posted April 10, 2006 Posted April 10, 2006 I am 42 yrs old, 5-7, and I have never had a girlfriend. I am pretty damn unattactive. My God!!! What a statement. I agree with swordfish that your problem is your low self esteem, not your looks. You might as well tell a girl that she's to good for you with all the confidence you have going for you. Women will pick up on your neediness and back away. You need to do some self examination and find out what your problems are before you can even think of having a g/f. There are many good books and materials to help in this area so check them out and start to learn how to improve yourself so you can be someone women would like to be with.
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