normal guy Posted April 9, 2006 Posted April 9, 2006 I would like to know some peoples opinoins on some things that are bothering me. It's been four months, I still have a hard time with sorting out my thoughts, feelings. The hardest part is when I see her or think I am going to see her. I see her almost once a week and try to keep my cool. She almost always waves to me or who she thinks is me. I am not the same person anymore. I used to want to see her, want to talk to her and now I can't.I don't want anything to do with her. The feelings I get are more powerful than anything I can remember. I get angry and sad or something else. She acts or seems like nothing is wrong (to her that's how I should feel) I often wonder if it is fake and feel she is just trying to be "nice". Is that what it is? I also feel she is going to call me soon because I don't wave and pretend I don't see her.(NC ) Would you expect a call. I won't answer yet and wonder what kind of message that says. People say you have to be strong and not show that you're hurt and that you don't need them, but I want to run away and hide. I don't NEED her, but how do I show her I'm ok? I am fine as long as she isn't involved.Some of my friends are hers as well and seeing her is pretty much going to happen. Some day I would like to be friends again as we were before we dated, but I am not ready and don't thonk I could handle it yet. I Thanks for any advice, thoughts, or comments.
Never Posted April 9, 2006 Posted April 9, 2006 I know exactly what you mean. I have been broken up with my ex for over a month; she was the one who stopped having feelings for me. So I still have these feelings, and she moves on with someone else. I feel like I'm finally enjoying life, but only when she's not around. I look forward to weekends - time by myself or with friends; not her. But I have to see her every day at school.. I wish I could just not talk to her, but sometimes she wants to talk to me. And after she does, I, for some reason, feel like I can't move on anymore, and sulk for a few days about it. But then after a while of not seeing her, I'll be fine again. I think with you, if she calls you or talks to you (don't expect her to, as she's probably wanting to just keep moving on), tell her how you don't want to talk to her anymore; atleast that's what I would do. It would show her you want her out of your life, and it'll make you feel better because you won't have to see her anymore. But don't say it in a desperate/sad way, say it with confidence and don't let her persuade you to feel otherwise - or she'll feel like she's in control.
Author normal guy Posted April 13, 2006 Author Posted April 13, 2006 Thanks, nice to know I'm not alone. I think as far as the phone call goes, Ill never answer. If she is able to get me in a conversation I'm not sure I can say anything about it. Kinda like opening pandora's box. Not sure I want to go there, ya know. Still sucks though cause you can't do anything about it. Time is working.
Never Posted April 13, 2006 Posted April 13, 2006 I know what you mean, and I think you're doing the right thing. Even if it doesn't seem like it sometimes, time is the greatest healer, and if you talk to her, it'll just take more time to get over it.
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