huxley Posted April 9, 2006 Posted April 9, 2006 ive been dating a girl for a few months now, and we're both college bound individuals (and we're going to the same college). recently, she told me that didnt want to be involved in a relationship with me because we might break up in college and it will hurt us both when we break up in college, and therefore, we should break up now. she wants to be "just friends" and wants to start dating casually. now i dont want to break up with her at this time. we still have 5 months to spend together before college even starts, and ive invested too much time and energy into this relationship to end it right now. plus, i dont understand her logic in saying that we'll be hurt in the future, so let's just get it over with now. so, we've agreed to continue the relationship we have now for a little bit longer and see what happens. now, i understand that this relationship is pretty much dead. but there was a physical aspect to this relationship that i am not ready to let go of. if we started dating casually, would this, by definition, mean that the physicality of what we had have to stop? i want to see her happy, but if i have to forego the physical part of what we have, then im not willing to start dating casually. i guess another logical question would be what do i do on the next few dates and next few days in general to maintain this relationship? thanks a lot. i really have no idea what to think about this.
westernxer Posted April 9, 2006 Posted April 9, 2006 Casual dating = casual sex. No commitment necessary. If that's what she means, then it's all good.
michelangelo Posted April 9, 2006 Posted April 9, 2006 She wants to not be in a serious relationship with you and sees college as a time of new experiences. I'm sorry you care for her more than she does you. be glad that she cares enough though to to try to spare your feelings. I think you ought to consider her recommendation of casual dating as a way of saying date other people.
Mary3 Posted April 9, 2006 Posted April 9, 2006 It means you have sex with her and she does not have feelings for you. She can have sex with anyone else she wants. Ask her to clarify what will happen next.
Cecelius Posted April 10, 2006 Posted April 10, 2006 Frankly, yes, you are. When a girl says this in high school, it usually means that she has a better date for the prom, or thinks she does, wants to drink and get on Girls Gone Wild during senior week, and then be free to do what she wants during college. If you are comfortable with a non-exclusive sexual relationship (and assuming that's what she's offering) then why not. Just understand that you'll be sharing the space with the other dudes she's seeing
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