mtbgirl Posted April 8, 2006 Posted April 8, 2006 Hi everyone, I was in a relationship for about two years, me 31 him 32 both never married. We were both unhappy more and more, and one day after a fight he said it, he didnt want to see me anymore, I had been thinking the same thing and felt relieved at first, now I feel lonley scared and afraid that I won't meet anyone like him again. I know it's for the best, he didn't make me happy and did things that pushed me away. In the first two months, he lied to me about an ex. We went to a party and never told me an ex would be there, she acted strangley to me all night no eye contact stc, a week later I wasnt around so he went on a bike ride with this person, I was angry because by that time I had figured out that she was an ex and was not telling me that she was. I finally confronted him about her and he said they were just friends and that there was nothing to worry about, but I worried about the lying, not cool. This happened two or three more times over the period of the relationship. He would hang out or talk to this girl and lie about it, then when I would find out about it he would say it's nothing to worry about she was just a friend! WHY LIE ABOUT IT THEN!!!!??? Well needless to say it brought out my insecurities and I began pushing him away, and he did the same, by the end I resented him and hated him for lieing to me. We broke up last week and were still talking, he seems to be fine going about his business like nothing happened, while I'm hurt and saddened that I have lost a good friend and companion. I talked to him last night and told him I can't talk to him or see him anymore, I felt like I was turning into his the ex that he was hanging out with, pathetic and willing to take any thing he would throw me. I am not that person! Why am I so upset? I didn't even like him so much at the end and I was starting to be attracted to others and thinking I couldn't marry him ever. Any advice would be appreciated! It's been about 2 weeks with no contact (on my part) and it's driving me crazy! I wonder what he is doing, is he back with this girl...etc Help!I thought I was doing so well.
MadDog Posted April 9, 2006 Posted April 9, 2006 Forget about him. He couldn't give you honesty, & without honesty there isn't trust. A relationship without trust isn't worth much anyway. You're only 31. You'll still have plenty of chances to meet single guys if you make the effort. Just make sure you try to find one who's honest with you the next time around. Good luck.
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