joshua1983 Posted April 8, 2006 Posted April 8, 2006 Hi, I've posted here several times before. I've just had my 1yr anniversary last week, and a lot of things are confusing me. She's my first love, and speaking to a lot of friends, when it is your first love, you will always do your best to keep the relationship going. Over the past few months, when i wake up, I always have these questionin feelings. Like, do I still love her? do I still think she's hot? I always keep trying to convince myself that I am still in love. The excitement stage is over, and yeah honestly I am bored and so is she. We have broken up a few times. And when that happens I always want her back. But I'm scared it might be because I think nobody else will want me, or because I am lonely. I've never really lived as a teenage guy & I am 22 now. I have never been out scoring with girls, and this may sound a bit immature, but I do somtimes resent it. She always is scared about the future. But I always say "I'll always love you". I guess that is a lie because, I don't know. How can a person be sure of their feelings forever? Sometimes I wonder what it is like to be with someone else in a proper relationship. Before her, I have dated a few people, but those have been really unserious. Right now I am really busy at work. She is currently on spring fall break, revising for her examinations. I keep thinking that this is just a phase, and that once the summer comes, my workload will decrease and everything will fall into place again. Am I kidding myself?? I think I am really scared in settling down. I am 22 and I haven't gone out there and partied. I feel guilty because I think she relies on me too much. And recently I have been fantasizing about a lot of girls I know. What should I do?? I've decided I am going to shut up till the summer, and then see how I feel, and then decide if this is what I want. I DO NOT wanna break up right now, as I have a feeling it is a phase. It's just sometimes I wanna know what is like to love someone else. When it is your first love, you always think it is the one right? (all my buddies from school certainly say that). What you guys reckon? Anybody been through this?
Tim'sAngel Posted April 8, 2006 Posted April 8, 2006 I dont' really know what your asking? You say you want to party and have fun and then turn around and say you love your gf and don't want to break up w/her. Well, its obvious you can't have both. It sounds to me like your realy confused and I don't think anyone on here is gonna figure out what you better than you.
westernxer Posted April 8, 2006 Posted April 8, 2006 I dont' really know what your asking? You say you want to party and have fun and then turn around and say you love your gf and don't want to break up w/her. Well, its obvious you can't have both. It sounds to me like your realy confused and I don't think anyone on here is gonna figure out what you better than you. I'll drink to that.
Guest Posted April 8, 2006 Posted April 8, 2006 I am kind of going threw the same thing right now. I wake up sometimes and wonder if i still love my gf and if she still loves me and cares about me. But trust me do not leave her at all because your going threw a dry spot in the relationship right now because you are not able to have fun with her constantly like you probaly want. Just give it some time and make some room in your life for eachother and after a while thing will get better
Author joshua1983 Posted April 10, 2006 Author Posted April 10, 2006 Thanks for the replies guys. I guess what I am asking is, is what I am feeling normal in any relationship? I've never been in anything serious before and I guess I figured you'd be infatuated the whole time, & that you'd never get bored. So is it normal to have these flat feelings?
justagirliegirl Posted April 10, 2006 Posted April 10, 2006 Thanks for the replies guys. I guess what I am asking is, is what I am feeling normal in any relationship? I've never been in anything serious before and I guess I figured you'd be infatuated the whole time, & that you'd never get bored. So is it normal to have these flat feelings? Yes it is normal. People don't have those infatuated feelings their entire relationship. What is it you are bored with? Do you still enjoy each other's company? Do you share common interests? Do you like her as a person?
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