Mary3 Posted April 8, 2006 Posted April 8, 2006 A. Nice guys call their girlfriends everyday sometimes 2 or more times per day. Nice guys sit by the phone all day long waiting for her to call and they'll pick up on the first ring. If they miss a call they are too quick to reply.Hello ?Is that you calling Starlight ? Balanced guys call their girlfriends no more than once or twice a week unless it's for a specific reason such as to confirm dating plans and those kind of calls are short and sweet.Not if he's my boyfriend Balanced guys also wait 1-2 days before returning a phone call or replying to an e-mail. hours not daysThey do not always answer their girlfriend's calls & when they do answer they wait 4-5 rings before pikcing up the phone. Pick up on secondBalanced guys almost always end the conversation first over the phone & hang up first.You crack me up (If your girlfriend has recently been in a crisis situation, i.e., in the hospital, grieveing a death in the family,sick,etc... then balanced guys call everyday maybe even twice a day to check in & make sure everything's alright.) Jerk guys will almost never call their girlfriends. Jerks call for sexThey will ignore most of her calls or e-mails too. They will not call very often to check up on her when she's going through a crisis. B. Nice guys are quick to apologize even when they have not done anything wrong Balanced guys apologize when they know they are wrong. They will admit their mistakes. Jerk guys rarely apologize when they are wrong. They never admit their wrongs. They always have to have the last word in an argument. C. Nice guys are afraid to have sex with their girlfriends.Haha Balanced guys save sex with their girlfriends only for special occassions. Like Leap Year ? Jerks just demand sex.Give it to me baby ! D. Nice guys are forgiving but they do not draw boundaries. Balanced guys are forgiving but they also draw boundaries. I'm sorry I have my fence up dear H. Balanced guys open doors for women but may forget to do so once or twice a year. Jerk guys rarely open doors for women. I. Nice guys are not concerned with their physical appearance or personal hygeine. Balanced guys take good care of their apperance & hygeine. They shower 2-3 times per day. Brush & floss 2 times a day. Trim their fingernails & toenails about once a week. They are clean cut. Jerk guys are obsessed with trying to look like arnold schawzeneager. They may spend 8 hours a day 7 days a week at the gym.Thats 56 hours a week They can't go more than 30 minutes without looking at themselves in the mirror. J. Nice guys show up at their girlfriend's house everyday. Balanced guys show up about once a week & no more than that. If there is a crisis situation then these rules are bended. Bend this *A balanced guy will be there for his girlfriend as much as he can when she has a legitimate need for him. Jerk guys are too obsessed with themselves to make time for their girlfriends. They may be workaholics=married to their work and make no time to see their girlfriends. K. Nice guys are doormats & allow their girlfriends to use their sexual power to get what they want from him. Balanced guys are not afraid to stand up & say "no" in a civil tone and risk losing their sexual privileges that evening.No baby don't touch me , I have fleas Jerk guys will use profanity and tell their girlfriends to shut up.lol stf_ What is my point? Well the bottom line is this: Nice guys finish last. Jerk guys finish 2nd to last. Balanced guys finish first. How do you know which category you are in? I don't like any of your choices. How about a Good Guy ?Whichever category you have the most characteristics in. You might be a nice guy in one department while being a jerk in another department while being a balanced guy in another department. I'm a nice guy when it comes to being a doormat in order to keep my sexual privileges. I'm a jerk when it comes to forgiving my girlfriend for wrongs she's done (although I don't tell her that). You playerI'm balanced when it comes to how often I initiate contact with her. I'm balanced when it comes to establishing a friendship with a woman first before taking it to exclusivity. I am a jerk when it comes to giving chances.
Author starlight2025 Posted April 8, 2006 Author Posted April 8, 2006 In the movies "meet the parents" & "meet the ****ers" you have a good example between the nice guy & balanced guy. For those of you who have seen it you know the characters I'm talking about. Greg ****er was the typical "nice guy" kissing up to his future father in law. He would stutter in his speech & be self consicious of every move he made. Jack burns, which was the father (robert de nero) was more of the balanced guy. He was an undercover CIA agent. He had sex with his wife ONLY on special occasions & anniverseries. I know this because I heard his wife say that in the "meet the ****ers" movie. Listen closely next time you watch it. Jack Burns was more of a challenge & a catch than Greg ****er. So if you want to know what a balanced guy is like just watch the character of Robert De Nero in those movies. I must say that caliguy looks like micheal douglass off of the movie "war of the roses."
justagirliegirl Posted April 8, 2006 Posted April 8, 2006 Does this mean he startles easily whilst f***ing? Like "OH! What was that noise?" kind of thing? :lmao: :lmao:
justagirliegirl Posted April 8, 2006 Posted April 8, 2006 WTF is it with all theses guides.. I have never lived my life by a guide.. And CG's guide works for him.. just as Stralights guide works for him.. But you guys are nuts to think that your guides are really good for all relationships.. or even any other than yours.. If a guy that beats his wife and has a 30 year marriage posts a guide on how to have a successful marriage by abusing her would you believe him ?? No... Well........ Exactly it is all silly nonsense. I either answer the phone as soon as I can or I don't answer it at all. Doesn't matter who it is. If we feel like having sex, we have it. I think people who want to do everything by some rule book are a little on the control freakish side. Do they scedule this stuff in Outlook or what? Do they keep a tally of who called whom and how long the talk was and who should be calling next??? Maybe they keep an hourglass by the bed to make sure special day sex doesn't last too long. I think all this rule stuff boils down to one thing- fear.
roxy_1980 Posted April 8, 2006 Posted April 8, 2006 "Emotional warfare" is that what you think relationships are like? I feel sad for you, not experiencing love even once in your twenty-somthng years on Earth. Cause once you find someone to really love, games no longer seem important and often seem stupid and jeuvenile. Scheduling sex is a control game (and not "sporadic" as you claim). Truly, can you say that you've looked over at your girlfriend and saw the moonlight shining through the window onto to her and just be amazed by her beauty and what her right that minute? (That's spontanteous!) If not, well, I'd guess that in the end your both gonna end up frustrated and it's not gonna last. We are sexual beings that form connections with our mates through intimacy. A balanced person does not think that they are better than millions of years of evolution.
BlahBlahQueen Posted April 8, 2006 Posted April 8, 2006 Jack burns, which was the father (robert de nero) was more of the balanced guy. He was an undercover CIA agent. He had sex with his wife ONLY on special occasions & anniverseries. I know this because I heard his wife say that in the "meet the ****ers" movie. Listen closely next time you watch it. Jack Burns was more of a challenge & a catch than Greg ****er. So if you want to know what a balanced guy is like just watch the character of Robert De Nero in those movies. Oh my god, you're kidding. Jack Burns was the prototypical dysfunctional anal husband in those movies, the stiff a**h***. I cannot believe you're using him as a model of relationship behavior. Did you notice that in Meet the ****ers, Greg's parents were on a mission to reform him? Those are the balanced people you should be emulating... they were the ones with the happy marriage and no weird hangups or coldness between them; they were natural, relaxed, confident, warm and happy, and had constant sex and affection and openness because they weren't paranoid, calculating ANAL PRICKS who can't have a natural relationship because they're too caught up in a business arrangement like Jack... or you...
Author starlight2025 Posted April 8, 2006 Author Posted April 8, 2006 Sure my gf is very attractive & a good catch. That's the reason I masturbate to kill time until the next special occasion. Yes we have sexual needs as human beings. I didn't deny that. But we have multiple ways of satisfying those needs. Pornography is one way of doing it. Masturbation is another way. A woman wants a man who is content with having sex only on special occasions. Alot of women already have this preconceived idea once they meet you that your only agenda for dating them is to get them into bed. It's up to us men to prove them wrong. To me I think it's rather immature for a man or a woman to place sex in a high level of importance in a relationship when we have the ability to satisfy ourselves. Yes it is nice to let our partners satisfy our sexual needs every once in awhile but it's not a necessity. You are not going to die if you wait 6 weeks. If she decides to go sleep with other guys on the side then I know she's not mature enough to be in a serious relationship and she should get a FWB. Why not? A relationship takes alot of hard work. It's not a lovey dovey fairytale story that you see in hollywood motion pictures! If you want easy sex then find a FWB. Remember it is also coated in human DNA that we all want the things in life that come difficult. We cherish & value the pleasant experiences that are difficult to obtain. If everything came easy for me (including sex) I would lose interest after doing it every week. So prove to your woman that you don't need her to satisfy your sexual desires & that you can do it yourself through masturbation. Show her that it would be nice if she did but that it isn't necessary. Someone asked how I'm able to have sex only sporadically? Well first of all I don't live with my gf. Second of all most of the dates now involve going out to dinner, playing video games at the arcade, picnics. We don't spend alot of time alone in her house like we use to. Therefore the temptation is not that strong. Sometimes we double date. I prefer double dating or triple dating. It's more fun to get together with my other friends and their girlfriends & sit around a big table in a restaraunt and get into long discussions about all sorts of subjects!
Author starlight2025 Posted April 8, 2006 Author Posted April 8, 2006 To me the jerk/a**h*** guy is the guy who is verbally or physically abusive to his significant other. He might curse her out or hit her or use violence or yell in her face as a means to control her. He doesn't play it cool when he's upset. Jack burns never talked disrespectfully to his wife in that movie.
BlahBlahQueen Posted April 8, 2006 Posted April 8, 2006 To me the jerk/a**h*** guy is the guy who is verbally or physically abusive to his significant other. He might curse her out or hit her or use violence or yell in her face as a means to control her. He doesn't play it cool when he's upset. Jack burns never talked disrespectfully to his wife in that movie. There's more than one kind of a**h***, you know. There's the disrespectful, denigrating kind... and there's the cold, calculating automaton kind who doesn't feel emotion or act human on a regular basis. That kind, to me, is a bit scarier.
blind_otter Posted April 8, 2006 Posted April 8, 2006 Someone asked how I'm able to have sex only sporadically? Well first of all I don't live with my gf. Second of all most of the dates now involve going out to dinner, playing video games at the arcade, picnics. We don't spend alot of time alone in her house like we use to. Therefore the temptation is not that strong. Sometimes we double date. I prefer double dating or triple dating. It's more fun to get together with my other friends and their girlfriends & sit around a big table in a restaraunt and get into long discussions about all sorts of subjects! It would be a miracle if she wasn't cheating on you. Hon, you have a weird idea of sex and sexuality and what it means. It's a loving expression between two people, not a reward, not something that is premeditated or calculated. Don't you know any married couples with a healthy relationship? And yes, relationships aren't all fun and games, they are hard work. But there are the good parts (like the loving expression of intimacy that is sex). Sometimes my BF and I don't have actual intercourse, but enjoy doing ome of the many other physically intimate activities that people in an intimate relationship enjoy. This is in addition, to the picnics, movies, dinners, hiking, and golfing that we do together. I think you'll also remember, in "Meet the ****ers" -- that Jack Burn's wife was desperately unhappy with her husband? And that she ended up abandoning him and siding with their daughter in a disagreement, in order to give him a wake up call that he was losing his wife with his rigid ways? And that he sought help from Mrs. ****er, a sex therapist, in order to win his wife back? Did you only watch like the first half of the movie?
roxy_1980 Posted April 8, 2006 Posted April 8, 2006 Firstly, I didn't ask how you have sex sporadically. I said that planning sex for special occasions is NOT SPORADIC! Sporadic = at RANDOM intervals, without a predetermined pattern. Second, being a geneticist who works for a National Lab, I can say with great certainity that genes are not CODED (not coated, don't use words you don't understand) for difficulty. Our genetic code is a result of the survival of the fittest. Meaning those who prosper, have children and their children continue the species. Whenever possible, they will use the path of least resistance in order to fulfill survival of their line. Meaning = people will only put up with so much $h!t before looking for an easier path and the games you tend to play constitutes as $h!t.
blind_otter Posted April 8, 2006 Posted April 8, 2006 Starlight -- were you sexually abused or molested as a child? I don't mean to offend but some of your attitudes I am familiar with from support groups I've been in.
westernxer Posted April 8, 2006 Posted April 8, 2006 A woman wants a man who is content with having sex only on special occasions. Thank goodness I don't know any of these women.
MadDog Posted April 8, 2006 Posted April 8, 2006 Remember it is also coated in human DNA that we all want the things in life that come difficult. We cherish & value the pleasant experiences that are difficult to obtain. If everything came easy for me (including sex) I would lose interest after doing it every week. "Coated" in human DNA? Now I know you're full of s***. You're one of those guys that throw out random "facts" to try to sound smart & hope whoever is listening is too ignorant to figure out you don't know what you're talking about. I'm on to you. If it's "coated" in our DNA to want things in life that are difficult, where exactly in the human genome is that trait located (which chromosome & arm)? Also, would you call a triplet of nitrogenous bases a "coaton"? I got my degree in bio you faker so I'm not falling for your nonsensical talk. I've totally met guys like you. Totally ignorant & spitting out random BS and making it sound like fact to sound smart. The only problem is when you run into someone who knows something about the topic you're BSing about.
luvtoto Posted April 8, 2006 Posted April 8, 2006 Sure my gf is very attractive & a good catch. That's the reason I masturbate to kill time until the next special occasion. A woman wants a man who is content with having sex only on special occasions. Alot of women already have this preconceived idea once they meet you that your only agenda for dating them is to get them into bed. It's up to us men to prove them wrong. To me I think it's rather immature for a man or a woman to place sex in a high level of importance in a relationship when we have the ability to satisfy ourselves. Yes it is nice to let our partners satisfy our sexual needs every once in awhile but it's not a necessity. If she decides to go sleep with other guys on the side then I know she's not mature enough If you want easy sex then find a FWB. If everything came easy for me (including sex) I would lose interest after doing it every week. So prove to your woman that you don't need her to satisfy your sexual desires & that you can do it yourself through masturbation. Show her that it would be nice if she did but that it isn't necessary. What in the sam-hell are you talking about? :confused:
Author starlight2025 Posted April 8, 2006 Author Posted April 8, 2006 Starlight -- were you sexually abused or molested as a child? I don't mean to offend but some of your attitudes I am familiar with from support groups I've been in. No I haven't. I had a happy childhood actually.
blind_otter Posted April 8, 2006 Posted April 8, 2006 No I haven't. I had a happy childhood actually. Your parents were together and treated you well? And they were nice to each other? I highly doubt that, if you have such a skewed picture of what normal human sexuality is. I mean, you can't really argue with statistical validity.....and your arguments have none.
Author starlight2025 Posted April 8, 2006 Author Posted April 8, 2006 Your parents were together and treated you well? And they were nice to each other? I highly doubt that, if you have such a skewed picture of what normal human sexuality is. I mean, you can't really argue with statistical validity.....and your arguments have none. Yes my parents treated me well. They have been legally married for 30 years. They just haven't slept in the same room for the last 8 years.
Author starlight2025 Posted April 8, 2006 Author Posted April 8, 2006 Your parents were together and treated you well? And they were nice to each other? I highly doubt that, if you have such a skewed picture of what normal human sexuality is. I mean, you can't really argue with statistical validity.....and your arguments have none. Yes they treated me well. They've been legally married for 30 years. They just haven't slept in the same room for the last 8 years.
Author starlight2025 Posted April 8, 2006 Author Posted April 8, 2006 Every family needs a husband and protective father figure like jack burns
roxy_1980 Posted April 8, 2006 Posted April 8, 2006 Quote: "Coated" in human DNA? maybe he meant "coded." That's the whole point though, he's claiming to know things about genetics and molecular biology that don't exist. He can't even use the proper terms, cause he has no idea what he's talking about. He's inventing pseudoscience in order to make his odd, twisted way of thinking seem legitimate.
TeaCooler Posted April 8, 2006 Posted April 8, 2006 That's the whole point though, he's claiming to know things about genetics and molecular biology that don't exist. He can't even use the proper terms, cause he has no idea what he's talking about. He's inventing pseudoscience in order to make his odd, twisted way of thinking seem legitimate. okay...i didn't need that explained. i just thought maybe the person throwing the fit didn't realize it may have been a simple mistake between 2 words which sound the same and could have been overlooked. even rocket scientists can type too quickly. it's an inevitable result of thinking faster than you can type or write sometimes. i am sure, however, these rocket scientists are far more careful with documents than they would be with loveshack, if they actually had time to be here. in any case, i don't know, this starlight dude might be brilliant or he might be a jack ass, in any case, it wasn't my point to prove either.
Mary3 Posted April 9, 2006 Posted April 9, 2006 Yes they treated me well. They've been legally married for 30 years. They just haven't slept in the same room for the last 8 years. They have not had sex for 8 years ? That would not do for me because I like it 2 times a day
Craig Posted April 9, 2006 Posted April 9, 2006 Ah, starlight2025 is full of it and the mods will probably delete this post like they deleted starlight2025's other posts and/or threads. In one he says he is a satanist and in another says he is a devout Christian. But those posts and/or threads are gone for some reason. I'd like to know why the mods are deleting these contradictory statements by starlight2025? Starlight is a troll.
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