pfeif216 Posted April 7, 2006 Posted April 7, 2006 HELP!!!!! I ran into my ex at a bar last night and one thing lead to another and he slept over...we ended things in September, he thought we were on 2 diff. levels(im 10 yrs. younger)...anyway it was my first love and he really broke my heart then and i couldnt eat for couple months b/c of such bad anxiety...anyway im sort of freakin out now and starting to get anxious, i think im worried about having these anxious feelings again and losing my appetite...HELP, im so worried....also, when he left this morning he said call me u have my number....i dont know what to do
In Sync Posted April 7, 2006 Posted April 7, 2006 HELP!!!!! I ran into my ex at a bar last night and one thing lead to another and he slept over...we ended things in September, he thought we were on 2 diff. levels(im 10 yrs. younger)...anyway it was my first love and he really broke my heart then and i couldnt eat for couple months b/c of such bad anxiety...anyway im sort of freakin out now and starting to get anxious, i think im worried about having these anxious feelings again and losing my appetite...HELP, im so worried....also, when he left this morning he said call me u have my number....i dont know what to do May I ask what you hoped to have gained by allowing him to sleep over? If it was just a physical hook-up and you got your needs met then you should be satisfied. But now apparently you are "so worried". Until you realize that you were and had been in control of your own destiny and things aren't willy nilly you pay the price. Now you've placed yourself right back on the waiting game line. Your ex is not responsible at all. ...."also, when he left this morning he said call me u have my number" (Ouch!) Remember having sex does not obligate anyone to ANYONE anymore. That's an outdated playbook, if you think this is the case. Your remedy: NC! And strict. Keepin' it real...
Author pfeif216 Posted April 7, 2006 Author Posted April 7, 2006 you are totally right and a lot of it was just the physical satisfaction but when i was thinking about him i dont think that i could see us actually dating again....the thing that worries me is the first time we hooked up after we broke up he told me he missed me so much & may have made a mistake..blah, blah and i was just so crushed b/c we didnt get back together that i had such horrible anxiety i lost my appetite...i think im worried about associating this time(after the hook up) with the past time in september and am scared that it will happen again...i just love to play tricks w/ my head..well im ramblin right now but i do feel a bit better
In Sync Posted April 7, 2006 Posted April 7, 2006 you are totally right and a lot of it was just the physical satisfaction but when i was thinking about him i dont think that i could see us actually dating again....the thing that worries me is the first time we hooked up after we broke up he told me he missed me so much & may have made a mistake..blah, blah and i was just so crushed b/c we didnt get back together that i had such horrible anxiety i lost my appetite...i think im worried about associating this time(after the hook up) with the past time in september and am scared that it will happen again...i just love to play tricks w/ my head..well im ramblin right now but i do feel a bit better The one thing I'm learning and have learnt from this having been burned is WORDS from someone who broke up with you mean zip!zilch S**t. A player is like a con artist and they come in all shapes, colors sizes backgrounds. When your ex has dumped you..YOU ARE VULNERABLE. Because we have been wounded. And despite all the niceness and hopes AND LOVE we harbour for the ex...it has to go out the window until you are rock solid recovered. So exposing yourself to them and sleeping with them not only sets you back it, it will spiral you out of control MENTALLY. Do you really need that just to get your rocks off. He's home chillin', with full knowledge that you will lay down with him at a moment's notice and few drops of booze and now you are mildly freakin' out. Doesn't seem worth it. Learn from this..and do youreslf a favor..get rid of his number. Don't be tempted to call him and think you'll fix this scenario. Just Keepin' It Real!
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