sephyvii Posted April 6, 2006 Posted April 6, 2006 Ok let me start from the beginning. In September I started Sixth Form (education higher than secondary school in the UK, ages 16-19) and I met the most amazing girl. She was smart, funny, had very similar interests that I did and similar opinions and extremely beautiful and we became very good friends very quickly. Now in my school years I wasn't the most sucessful of people when it came to women and was ery shy around them until my last year of school. We first met in our media lesson when we were partnered up to do a project about a production company or something like that. Anyways we got talking and she was a nice girl and we exchanged msn addresses so we could help each other with the work. We got talking that night and gott on quite well. Now at the time I didn't notice this but she was also in my English lesson aswell which she pointed out over msn and sure enough next English lesson she came and sat next to me with her friend, get talking and again got on alright. Now the next media lesson we had we teased each other alot and had a really good laugh (we told be the teacher to stop being so loud lol). When I first met her I wasn't aware that she had a boyfriend who she'd been seeing for the past two years but I wasn't to bothered by this for the time being. The first time I met him I was walking with her and he gave me the dirtyest look ever and later found out that he is always like this to her guy mates and get jealous very easily. One of my friends is in the same ICT class as him and told me that he'd been saying how I won't leave his girlfriend alone and that she always see's her with me. I had seen them together inbetween lessons and from what I saw he treated her very badly and she'd tell me how he was a complete ******* to her which made me angry cause you couldn't find a more loving and friendly person if you tried. I grew to hate him after a while and so did other people who heard about him, but me more than anyone. After about a month of meeting I developed feelings for me so I asked her out over a voice chat convo. At this point fellow classmates and friends of mine were saying how I should ask her out and how she likes me by the way she acts around me etc. I said how her boyfriend was a complete waster and you deserved better and if she would go out with me. Her respounce was that she wouldn't just dump her boyfriend then and there to go out with someone else because of how long they've been together and that if they did break up she would need time to herself before getting into another relationship. The following day we were in media and she came up to me and said she didn't want last nights events to come between our friendship, which was fine by me. At this point however I thought she would go off me because I asked her out, but it was quite the opposite. We became more closer than ever before, our conversations became more personal which she would start in an attempt to really get to know me. The level of flirting increased, lots of light touches and the teasing from both sides increased more and she would laugh at nearly everything I said, even if it wasn't a joke and it was just jiberish only she would laugh. Soon after our conversation she would fling out her arms for a hug when I was going home. There would be times when she would call me a certain name that I hated and she knows this and I would go quiet and look away and she would come straight over and latch onto my arm and say I'm really sorry over and over again whilst laughing, I always knew she was joking so I never really took it to heart. Sometimes when we would be talking our eyes would meet and we wouldn't say anything for a few seconds and we'd both smile and turn away slightly then get on with whatever we were talking about. It was really nice Now at this point I had fallen head over heals in love with this girl, but with her still seeing her boyfriend this was still a problem. Soon after the X-mas holidays though they broke up and he's been obsessive about her ever since. Text messages, phone calls, e-mails he did it all to try and get her back. She was having none of this though and said she'd never go out with him ever again! Now, her ex-boyfriend still talked about me behind my back I learned from my media teacher (he teaches us both just in different classes). I didn't have his e-mail address at the time so I told my mate who knew him to tell him to stfu saying **** about him. About 15 minutes later I recieved this e-mail. (my name), i know You dont like and i have a good Thought y, But Mate i dont wanna be Enimies and Hate each other, Everything that i did I was just messing around. I am a Jokey and Cocky person and i know that i am But tahts me, If you took anything i said seriously, Just forget it I not here to make Enimies and I dont want ppl to hate me for Messing around. I knew You liked (her name) And you Asked her Out on ur Ts (voice chat convo) which pissed me off Because i was Going out with her then. Thats the only reason ive been messing around with you, So if Anything mate Just Forget anything that has happened in the pass and Have a clean slate^ Cheers (his name)^ I laughed as soon as I read it because, as you can see, he has no grasp of spelling or grammer and that I had scared him because I found out what he'd been saying about me. The next day she came up and asked me about this e-mail that he told her about, I forwarded it to her and she was like omg what a prat, I agreed lol. At the beginning of March our media class got the chance to go to New York for 6 days, which me and her both went on. It was great, we had a brilliant time and enjoyed each others company. It was very similar to home between us, we joked, teased, flirted and generally had a laugh. I was even kind enough to pay for some of our cab fee's when we got one. She however made sure to pay me back even though I said it was ok but she insisted. Now after we got back I asked her out again but was hesitant to ask because it was only a month after the break up and I didn't know how long she'd want time alone before going out with anyone. The respounce I got was what I expected. She said that it was to soon for her to be going out with anyone yet because she just wanted to be single for a while, which I completely understood and nothing more was said on the matter....however, she also added and I quote "sorry if I lead you on at all and made you think I was interested." Wft?! From what I've seen and learnt you don't go giving the kind of signals she's been giving me and not be interested. Anyways that same week me, her and a few friends who went to New York went for a drink on the weekend and other people were invited later on. She phoned a few people from work to come down and one of them she'd told me about who asked her out and wouldn't leave her alone on msn etc. Anyways after a few drinks me and her were flirting alot and she came and sat on me and joked around and so on. Later on the guys from her work place turned up and she went off and talked to them for a while and was very drunk at the time. I was talking to my other friends when one of them pointed out that she's getting on someone. I turned around and it was the guy she that wouldn't leave her alone and stuff. Feeling quite angry and jealous I stupidly stormed out and went home early. The following morning I had college and had realised what an idiot I had been and started getting ready. I turned my phone on and to my surprise she had sent me a text message saying 'I'm sorry if i did anything to piss you off I said I do things I regret when I'm drunk. I hope you don't hate me.' I was like fare enough but I still couldn't help feeling a little bit betrayed in some form. When I got into college I was waiting for my lesson to start with a few mates and she came round the corner and we both looked at each other for a moment and I turned to my friends again. We both had English so she said you coming so I walked with her. As soon as we were away from my friends she grabbed my arm gently and said 'please don't hate me, you alright?' I said I was cool and the day carried on like any other day. She said she went looking for me once she heard that I had gone but I was already miles away. I eventually found out that she was going out with the guy from her work, which confused me because of what she said about him and that she said she regretted it. Still, I dug deep and tried not to care and it seems to be holding. We went out for another drink the following week and he came along to. They were together for most of the night but she came up and said hello and chatted every once in a while but went back to him because he was on his own and didn't know anyone. When I went up to the bar to get a round he came up shortly afterwards and said 'hey you (her name) mate (my name) right?' We talked for a few minuets and he was an alright guy, but I felt like he made an effort with me because of my current situation with her. I didn't see him go up to anyone else and talk to them like he did with me, was strange. Now then, last Saturday I had a party (my mum was away so it had to be done) and loads of people came (mainly hot girls of my age, 17) and I invited a load of my friends and her and her friends. As the night progressed and more drink was consumed we got flirty and jokey and so on which was great. I remember her pulling me to one side and she started to do some sexy dancing with me as I was trying to get past. I sat down and she imediatly sat right on my lap (more or less on my balls) and we talked and laughed and so on. She turned to me and went 'arr I love (my name)' and kissed me one the check. Later on I was flirting with one of her friends in my room and she came and hugged me from behind, was a bit arkward as I had my hands down her friends bra and she saw this and left the room (she was the only one that did). Later on I was sitting on my office like chair in my room with a load of people on the bed and floor all having a laugh when another one of her mates comes and sits on me. We had a cuddle and we looked at each other and she kissed me on the lips lightly, then again, then we made out infront of her and aload of other people. All I heard was her saying 'oh my god' and cheers from other people lol. I made out with her two more times after that and went downstairs for a bit. She was sitting down already and I sat next to her and she saked how many times I got on her mate, so I told her 3 times and she laughted and said get in there lol. I went upstairs again and sat in my chair and she came up a little after I think looking a bit out of it so I said she should stop drinking and clear her head. She sat on me but then laid on my sideways and put her arms around her my neck and said she just needed to rest her eyes. On me? I thought to myself. Still I wasn't complaining, it was nice, she was almost curled up in a ball on me and resting her head on my chest. I almost fell asleep to It was so comfortable. I said are you alright and she just mermered 'yeah I'm ok, just tired.' I payed her a compliment and said she looked really good tonight and kissed her lightly on her head. She smiled and thanked me. *breathes* I think I've covered the more important events and issues I've had since I met this girl. All I want to know is from what I've said about how she acts around me is there any chance of us becoming more than friends? So many people have said we should be a couple but to be honest I'm getting fed up of waiting, I don't want to wait however long I have to again t see if I have a chance of being in a relationship with her, but that doesn't mean I don't want her to not be in my life at all. I've only known her for 8 months yet I feel like I've known her for 8 years, she's probably one of the best friends I've ever had but I can't help having these feelings for her. Does she like me back but not want me to know? It's all so confusing and new to me I don't know what to do anymore.
Mary3 Posted April 7, 2006 Posted April 7, 2006 I am going to assume that you are a young attractive 17 year old male who has a great network of friends and a fun life. I am going to assume that she has similar .. It sounds to me like she knows the pull she has on you. She tells you she does not want to date anyone and then one month later is seeing someone and its not YOU. I think she has you in some flirty friendzone where the only time you get a hug and a kiss is when she is drunk. Stay her friend if you can stomach her sitting on guys laps right in front of you. I notice you were making out with other chicks in front of her. I know you were drunk of course.lol MY best advice is keep her in the friendZone and get on with your young life Have fun first and foremost. !
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