Falling for your Best Friend

[sweetdreams]

Yes I know this is a huge No-No. But it has happened. It happened a long time ago. I have loved this man for about 5 years now. We have been such good friends. And now he has gone back to his bitch of an ex. She is so horrible to him; I hate the thought that they are back together. I can't do anything about it, but I love him. And she just wants him back so she doesn't have to be lonely. I hate this thought so much. I that that I am going to have to see them together and there is not one thing I can say to him to make him leave her. I mean I want him to be happy, I do. And I guess I can put up with her again. But I just don't know what to do about my feelings for him. I mean do I just forget my feelings completely? Do I push them aside once again. I know I sound sad that I've loved this same man for so many years, but it seems that everytime I come close to telling him how I feel, he finds someone else, and I tuck it all away again. I don't want to ruin his happiness, and for some reason I can't go on. What can I do?

[alex434]

give a hint to him, ask him how much of a good friend are you to him and has he ever thought of you as something more... if this seems too difficult, then you have to do it the hard, but simple way... explain your feelings towards him and let him know the truth. This is a win win or a lose lose situation. If you tell him how you feel, and he is the same, then you win, become watever and move forward. But... if you tell him and he doesnt feel the same way, then there will forever be a moment of alkwardness between you two, and most likely, you both will stop talking to one another and maybe even have hate or bad feelings. Its ashamed that you waited this long to decide this but i think that after waiting so damn long, you have no other logical option but to go for it. after all... if he doesnt feel the same you will feel sort of bad and stupid for wasting your time, but dont waste anymore!