how do love and politics mix? would you date a republican if you're a democrat?

[jkm2111]

Because the biggest issues in the U.S. today are also some of the most politically divisive, how do love and politics mix in the bedroom? Are you turned on by a hot debate with someone who as opposing political ideals? Or would you find an "interpolitical relationship" too rocky?

[jerbear]

Because the biggest issues in the U.S. today are also some of the most politically divisive, how do love and politics mix in the bedroom? Are you turned on by a hot debate with someone who as opposing political ideals? Or would you find an "interpolitical relationship" too rocky?

 

"interpolitical relationship" -> Nope, for me it would work

 

Makes passion more fun sometimes; just have to be compatible. I love a passionate debate, gets in your face, kiss her then sit down.

 

Having similar views if RINO or DINO means anything. I personally like a good dose of debating.

[tanbark813]

I'm a Republican and I wouldn't have a problem dating a Democrat. Some of that, though, is due to me not being hardcore Republican and siding with liberal views on some issues.

 

I think the bigger question is not the political party affiliation of the two people involved, but how good they are at hearing opposing views. My last two gf's were both democrats. One of them we never had arguments because of our views. But a lot of that is because we both listened to what the other said, gave our reasons for why we believed what we did, and pretty much left it at that.

 

The other gf, however, was of the opinion that if I disagreed with her, then that automatically meant I was wrong. We got into some heated debates simply because she was unwilling to accept that an opposing view might contain some validity.

[blind_otter]

I'm a liberatarian. I had never dated anyone who held similar beliefs until I met my current. Now we find other things to argue about.

 

Personally I don't give a dirty rat's ass.

[Delectable]

I'm a Republican and that automatically meant I was wrong.

 

Of course you being a republican makes you automatically wrong...

 

JK

 

I am a conservative democrate and Mr. Wonderful is pretty conservative. Those aren't the issues that cause the real problems in our reltionship. We did have a very sprited debate once about children being charged as an adult - I was miffed...we got over it

[jerbear]

Of course you being a republican makes you automatically wrong...

 

JK

 

I resent that! I'm a fiscal conservative, socially moderate Republican. Have dated D's and R's; even within the same party you get dissenters. It makes life interesting.

[Curmudgeon]

One day, a female friend and coworker and I were discussing politics. That's our profession so it wasn't strange that we'd do so. We disagreed on something and she said to me, "You have to know that I'm a left-wing, hope-to-die, bleeding-heart, liberal Democrat!" A little voice went off in my head and said, "Well, this will never work!" At the time I'd been a registered Republican for almost 30 years.

 

Fast-forward five years. I'd since left the Republican party and registered as a decline-to-state. While I was still a fiscal conservative, I'd become a social moderate. Divorcing the ex during that time probably helped. My friend was still a registered Democrat. It was not unusual for us to both be testifying on the same bill before the legislature with one of us in opposition and the other one of us in support as we worked the same policy area.

 

We also worked very well together. She had the politics down and I was the policy expert so we actually enhanced one another professionally.

 

As you may have already guessed, we also fell in love and married. We still testified against one another and we had some great discussions at home and interesting pillow talk but we never argued, we enjoyed the exchanges and we still enhanced one another professionally and now did so personally as well.

 

To us, politics is a profession and has nothing to do with us as a couple. We don't let it. She's still far more liberal than I am and I'm still much more conservative than she is but we usually meet somewhere in the middle and rarely cancel out one another's vote.

 

It sure was fun to kill one another's bills during committee hearings though. Unfortunately, she's since retired.

[Guest]

I'm very much about social justice, compassion, tolerance, and all that stuff. So I would have quite a bit of trouble with someone who didn't share similar values. To me it's not so much politics but the values that come with that are important. So a heavily conservative right-winger would simply not do.

[Groovy]

I think it depends on how left or right wing you are.

[jkm2111]

i've been interested in the question of how politics meshes with romance for awhile- and was really intrigued by eveyone's responses. i posed the question on loveshack to see if it had any potential for a feature article. i am a journalist, writing for the columbia news service in new york, and i would like to continue the conversation with those who replied, and are willing to talk about their experiences. if you'd be interested, please email me at [email protected]. thanks:cool:

[amerikajin]

I think you can be on opposite sides of the political spectrum unless you're talking about 'values', then things change a bit. I could date someone who's fiscally republican, and to a lesser extent, socially republican as well. But I couldn't date the ultra right wing types. For what it's worth, I doubt I could date the Green Peace 'save the earth' types either.