panthera_leo Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 Hey guys n gals, im new to this forum (as u all can probably guess). Right so here it goes...hope u guys can give me some advice! I feel like a pile of shat I was with my ex for 2 years, im 20 and he's 21. We broke up only a month ago and im feeling so messed and crappy n grrrrrrrrrr. Here's the background... We met online, started talking, met up after a few months and were together since then. Everything was happy and fluttery and blar blar blar... as it goes. My family and friends thought we were meant to be etc etc. He's in the military so we had a long distance relationship and only saw eachother on weekends, but that was ok, we coped and quite liked the distance. Im at University so my life is pretty hectic. Babbling on... sorry lol So anyways, after his 21st he started going all weird. He wanted to spend more time with friends, he arranged a lads holiday, he wanted to take up loads of hobbies etc. I was like ok cool :/ bit weird. He started treatin me differently. Out of the blue he said we should split up... WHAT!? Cmon lads i need ur input here! Whats going on in his head!? He said he loves me but he needs to be alone at this point in his life... and he was confused but he just wants to be alone. I asked is there some1 else... he said no and he doesn't want there to be. He said in an "ideal world" he would go off and do what he's gotta do, we would be friends and we would get back together in 2 years or so.Crazziee boi! :/ He said we should say its OVER so neither of us get hurt. He said he knows i'd find some1 else and he doesn't want to hold on to me. The thing is...(i know u'll probably all slap me for this) but I cant be arsed with any1 else! (bit harsh) but we're so compatible and iv been thinking about him everyday since it happened. Ok so here i am... feelin crud. I phoned about 2 weeks ago and asked him wtf he was doing. He said he still wanted to be alone but he wants to be my friend. I cant be his friend He got really emotional when he started talking about me finding some1 else. He told me i gotta let go. So it ended by me saying...dont contact me, i need to move on. NC since then. So i guess im looking for words of wisdom... or a guys opinion on what he's talking about. I love him with all my heart, i know this is what he wants so i'd never try and talk him out of it. Im trying to protect myself by moving on and i am so desparately trying to forget him...but its so hard. I need a hug Thanks in advance for ur help! x
blind_otter Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 You guys are young. This is the age that people really start exploring who they are, and sometimes this translates into a general funk about being in a committed relationship and a fear that they are "missing out on something". I got married when I was 21 and was divorced by the time I was 24. I'm sure he does love and care about you but he's probably still figuring out "who" he is. And you need to do that as well. IME, this tends to happen more and faster when single.
Recommended Posts