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It's possible he wasn't online. Your gut is probably right, but I would give him the benefit of the doubt. Don't react.

 

If he doesn't contact you at some point today, I would seriously refrain from any contact. He still thinks he has some power in this situation and quite frankly, he doesn't deserve any with his behavior. He wanted space. He keeps contacting you. You respond. He stops contact? If this does happen, it just reinforces what I've been saying. He's irresponsible and you're going to have to lead teh tone of the relationship. Give him a day or so. If he doesn't respond then you probably need to play hard ball.

 

My experience has been that when a guy starts to feel like he's in the saddle he may take you for granted. When I walk away with no indication that I need him in my life, he's back on the ground chasing. But when you two do talk again, don't nag. Just tell him how you feel.

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It's possible he wasn't online. Your gut is probably right, but I would give him the benefit of the doubt. Don't react.

 

If he doesn't contact you at some point today, I would seriously refrain from any contact. He still thinks he has some power in this situation and quite frankly, he doesn't deserve any with his behavior. He wanted space. He keeps contacting you. You respond. He stops contact? If this does happen, it just reinforces what I've been saying. He's irresponsible and you're going to have to lead teh tone of the relationship. Give him a day or so. If he doesn't respond then you probably need to play hard ball.

 

My experience has been that when a guy starts to feel like he's in the saddle he may take you for granted. When I walk away with no indication that I need him in my life, he's back on the ground chasing. But when you two do talk again, don't nag. Just tell him how you feel.

 

Thanks again for the reply.

I let a guy friend read that message he wrote to me and he said he thought he sounded a bit too cocky.

 

The bf is sadly mistaken if he thinks he has any leverage with me on this situation. I probably do come off as a pushover but when I am rubbed the wrong way things change.

 

I do feel he is taking me for granted. I am just going to wait and not react. I just think this is absolutely ridiculous for him to treat me this way when I am so good to him.

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Day two and I haven't seen nor heard from him. I am so done with this.

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Update: He came online and wrote to me. Then he has said something that hurt my feelings. I said something to him about it and he apologized.

 

Some lessons I have learned. Approach any relationship from confidence and not fear. You really do teach people how to treat you. Insist on respect.

 

We are ok now. I think my mind is in a different place now which is good

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