dsgb Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 Recently I have made a very bad mistake. I have gotten into 2 serious relationships. Heres the issue: I am in college in Texas and the girls attend the same school in Louisianna. I am transferring to the Lousianna school in the summer. I recently visited both girls on different days and had dates with them. Well the first girl's name is Jennifer. Jen is young and kinda sorta immature but I feel a strong love connection with her. I feel as if i give her some time there could something really promising. I am in love with her. The next girl however is named Tanya, she is mature and has a good head on her shoulders and she really cares about me. However sometimes i feel like we are more or less "Just Friends" but there are hints of a beautiful relationship. I feel more steady with her than i do with Jennifer and she would be the obvious choice but I feel a deep love connection with Jennifer. I need some help before I get there in the summer. Thanks.
amerikajin Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 I'll sum it up for ya, podnuh: it's called cheating. Now that we've gotten all that out of the way, the question is, how should you get yourself out of this mess? Let's start by narrowing it down to one girl and eliminating the other once and for all. It's cruel, but it'll be a lot more cruel if you string both along, and it'll be doubly difficult if one or the other finds out about it. Because I can assure you, if one finds out about it, they both will - take that one to the bank. It seems to me like you're more attracted to the first girl, even with her faults. As well-rounded as the second girl may be, you can't force yourself to be attracted to her - and it seems as though the attraction's missing. My pick would be girl one, but that's just me. Oh, and by the way, you can't possibly be in love with someone and date someone else on the side - that would never happen if you were really 'in love' with that person. When you're in love, that person takes care of all your needs.
Author dsgb Posted April 5, 2006 Author Posted April 5, 2006 Thanks yeah thats how im feeling also. Im really not in love with girl one, but my feelings are really starting to grow for her, but so are my feelings for girl 2. Girl one has way too many faults and I honestly know girl 2 doesn't have any faults and it would make more sense to be with her. The thing is I have to pick one of the girls and eliminate the other in the span of 2 months.
blind_otter Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 This is a big problem? Wow. My problems are apparently insurmountable. Newsflash - I think you're too immature to have a committed relationship with anyone.
Touche Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 I don't see anything wrong with dating both as long as you're not sleeping with both of them and you're honest about it. But I gather that that is not the case here. You need to get honest with them. Maybe say you're not ready to be exclusive and take it from there.
Author dsgb Posted April 5, 2006 Author Posted April 5, 2006 Im too immature. Wow, I just got on here for advice, I really didn't get on here to get criticized. Im not immature, im very mature I just made a mistake and now im stuck in a sticky situation. Thanks for the help though. fricken jerk
Lucasarts Posted April 6, 2006 Posted April 6, 2006 i've been thru this sh*t man, i know the feeling basically u have to resort to whats best for yourself...you say that girl one u dont feel anythin for but you are starting too. She also is more immature right? thats a problem because immature girls tend to do stupid things (ie make out with other guys, cave in to peer pressure) and dont think. What she is, is a schoolboy crush. I would go for girl number two because she seems more your type. Even if it feels like the "just friends" thing, its more serious and has more potential. Besides its better to feel that your girlfriend is also your best friend, she's your companion and mate; so she has to feel like a friend whose always there for you i wouldnt say u are immature, and in situations like this its hard to break up with one...because in essence its your fault shes hurt, not hers. but once u get past that, you'll feel better for getting yourself out of a mess. p.s. its best to break up with the other girl asap cause if either get the hint that ur cheating on them, u lose two and your dignity.
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