Lishy Posted April 6, 2006 Posted April 6, 2006 I guess it wouldn't help to say I have this thing for women with British accents, huh? Brit accent over here!!!!!!!!! hahhahaha Seriously Cali you need to reply to anyone who contacts you on the dating sites ... It is rude not to! I agree that she was a bit over the top but if she FEELS overweight and unattractive then maybe it takes alot for her to contact someone and when she gets ignored it probably makes her self esteen rocket even lower! We gals are fickle at times don't you know? A good way to turn someone down in a nice way is to say "I read your profile and our interests differ too much, but thank you for mailing me, I am sure you will meet your knight in shining armour soon" AndI can imagine that you are very hard to please Cali!
littlekitty Posted April 6, 2006 Posted April 6, 2006 Hey Lishy... hope you're doing good... hugs! I agree that it can be rude not to reply... however, it really isn't always possible. Some days I would have received 90 responses in one day... more the next etc. To reply with a nice friendly response to each person would have taken me all day, and I just didn't have the time... so I'm afraid it was delete, delete, save, delete...!!
Author CaliGuy Posted April 6, 2006 Author Posted April 6, 2006 First girl was upset that you didn't respond/weren't interested in her so she tried to justify in her own mind that she didn't like you by trying to find something wrong with your profile. Makes her feel good about herself, kind of like "well I didn't want him anyway..." I don't get replies sometimes. I guess the difference here is I don't get upset and send a nasty email because I don't take it personal. Which leads me to related question - I'm on a dating/networking site (not exclusively for dating, but more for networking with friends etc) and occasionally if I see an attractive girl I'll send her a message saying how I like her pics, or she has a nice smile or something. Half of the girls don't even respond - would it kill them to say thank you? I mean if they aren't interested that's fine, but my messages are very tasteful and it only takes 2 seconds to reply with "thanks :)" I make sure to atleast do that if someone gives me a compliment, even if I have no interest in them at all. Don't take it personal. Not everyone you meet is going to like you. The sooner you realize that the sooner you'll be more comfortable in your own skin. Don't fret about making everyone like you. It's just impossible.
Author CaliGuy Posted April 6, 2006 Author Posted April 6, 2006 Brit accent over here!!!!!!!!! hahhahaha I'm seriously going to move to the UK or Australia. Loooooove the accents Seriously Cali you need to reply to anyone who contacts you on the dating sites ... It is rude not to! I agree that she was a bit over the top but if she FEELS overweight and unattractive then maybe it takes alot for her to contact someone and when she gets ignored it probably makes her self esteen rocket even lower! We gals are fickle at times don't you know? I understand what you're saying. When I was on a dating site several months ago, I sent out a few emails and never got a reply. I didn't take it personal. Not everyone you meet is going to like you. I understand that and don't get upset about it. Her email confirmed to me what I already suspected which is she wasn't a good fit. And if something so little as an unreturned email can get her that upset, um, I made the right choice A good way to turn someone down in a nice way is to say "I read your profile and our interests differ too much, but thank you for mailing me, I am sure you will meet your knight in shining armour soon" I'll keep that in mind And I can imagine that you are very hard to please Cali! Nah, not really. Deep down I'm just a simple guy with the basic needs. Love, sex, sleep, food. As long as I get those four things, I'm pretty happy
littlekitty Posted April 6, 2006 Posted April 6, 2006 Actually CaliGu, there are five secrets for a perfect relationship: THE FIVE SECRETS OF A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP 1. It's important to have a woman who helps at home, who cooks from time to time, cleans up and has a job. 2. It's important to have a woman who can make you laugh. 3. It's important to have a woman who you can trust and who doesn't lie to you. 4. It's important to have a woman who is good in bed and who likes to be with you. 5. It's very, very important that these four women don't know each other.
Author CaliGuy Posted April 6, 2006 Author Posted April 6, 2006 Actually CaliGu, there are five secrets for a perfect relationship: THE FIVE SECRETS OF A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP 1. It's important to have a woman who helps at home, who cooks from time to time, cleans up and has a job. 2. It's important to have a woman who can make you laugh. 3. It's important to have a woman who you can trust and who doesn't lie to you. 4. It's important to have a woman who is good in bed and who likes to be with you. 5. It's very, very important that these four women don't know each other. Now THAT is funny. Thinking about it though, my ex only had one of the four qualities. If I could just find one who had them all (except #5 of course, haha), I'd marry her
2020vision Posted April 6, 2006 Posted April 6, 2006 CaliGuy, This is kind of off the wall and you do not have to answer if you don't want to...But...how old are you??
Author CaliGuy Posted April 6, 2006 Author Posted April 6, 2006 CaliGuy, This is kind of off the wall and you do not have to answer if you don't want to...But...how old are you?? Thirty seven, looking good, feeling good and pretty darn happy Why?
2sunny Posted April 6, 2006 Posted April 6, 2006 I've got four of those listed and a lot more good stuff to offer, not that any of it matters... he he
Author CaliGuy Posted April 6, 2006 Author Posted April 6, 2006 Now accepting applications for a potential girlfriend. Inquire within :D haha.
2sunny Posted April 6, 2006 Posted April 6, 2006 Now accepting applications for a potential girlfriend. Inquire within :D haha. potential being the key word :D
Author CaliGuy Posted April 6, 2006 Author Posted April 6, 2006 potential being the key word :D Hey if they have all four, they're a shoo in
2sunny Posted April 6, 2006 Posted April 6, 2006 for some reason I thought the criteria for men's happiness was: sex food sleep not ALWAYS necessarily in that order....
2020vision Posted April 6, 2006 Posted April 6, 2006 Thirty seven, looking good, feeling good and pretty darn happy Why? Although this is the "Dating" Forum, I know its not a dating site...so I will keep it brief! Just curious..
Author CaliGuy Posted April 6, 2006 Author Posted April 6, 2006 Although this is the "Dating" Forum, I know its not a dating site...so I will keep it brief! Just curious.. Uhhh huh. Trying to get in my pants already???? sheesh! What am I? A piece of meat??
2020vision Posted April 6, 2006 Posted April 6, 2006 Haha..NO! And I do agree...People ARE weird..After going out on several dates where I was set up by friends or asked out...I seriously cannot go on another bad date. So, therefore, I am just not going on anymore dates!
Author CaliGuy Posted April 6, 2006 Author Posted April 6, 2006 Haha..NO! And I do agree...People ARE weird..After going out on several dates where I was set up by friends or asked out...I seriously cannot go on another bad date. So, therefore, I am just not going on anymore dates! Now that's not the right attitude. Bad dates happen all the time. I love going out on dates because people fascinate me and I can learn so much. I prefer to look at it as an oppportunity to go out and have fun with little to no expectations. Besides, you can never make enough friends.
2020vision Posted April 6, 2006 Posted April 6, 2006 Now that's not the right attitude. Bad dates happen all the time. I love going out on dates because people fascinate me and I can learn so much. I prefer to look at it as an oppportunity to go out and have fun with little to no expectations. Besides, you can never make enough friends. I was mostly being sarcastic, but have to admit that I do feel like throwing in the towel sometimes! I admire your positive outlook on dating.
Author CaliGuy Posted April 6, 2006 Author Posted April 6, 2006 I was mostly being sarcastic, but have to admit that I do feel like throwing in the towel sometimes! I admire your positive outlook on dating. Stop twisting my arm here, ok? I don't know if I am available on Friday.
francis Posted April 6, 2006 Posted April 6, 2006 37?!! i thought you were about 25...from the photo that is oh my
Author CaliGuy Posted April 6, 2006 Author Posted April 6, 2006 37?!! i thought you were about 25...from the photo that is oh my I look 25 in person too. Sad huh? Women my age won't date me as I look too young. Women in their 20's think something is wrong with me that I have never been married or had kids. Now, the early 20 year olds, hehe. No problem there
francis Posted April 6, 2006 Posted April 6, 2006 so is it really a case of not having met the right one all along?
Author CaliGuy Posted April 6, 2006 Author Posted April 6, 2006 so is it really a case of not having met the right one all along? I've met two women in my life that I would have married. In both cases, I had not built up the proper levels of confidence in myself, I wasn't happy with myself and consequently repeated the same mistakes. When we first started dating, I was confident and happy. When I fell in love, I turned into a classic 'nice guy.' Was too dense to realize what I was doing and by then it was far to late to repair things. Now that I've been educated, had I known then what I know now, I definitely would be married right now. I'm not in a hurry. The progress I've made in reprogramming my personality and attitude has been immense. But I'm quite happy with where I am now
2020vision Posted April 6, 2006 Posted April 6, 2006 Stop twisting my arm here, ok? I don't know if I am available on Friday. You are a character.... And I do agree, you look quite young for your age!
francis Posted April 6, 2006 Posted April 6, 2006 it sounds like you are in complete control now its scary what falling in love can do to a person though! i've got no doubt, it's just a matter of time for you!
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